Should I go to this wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1248 posts
Bumble bee

nahhh i’d pass on that one. especially if you aren’t particularly close with the bride. if the invitation didnt specify you get a plus one, you dont get a plus one & its rude to ask.

Post # 4
2915 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

I would probably decline. She scheduled her wedding on a Sunday, so she will be expecting some declines anyway.

Post # 6
2675 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

I would decline.

I think it would be kind of rude to ask about a plus one, but then again if you’re engaged it’s kind of rude she wouldn’t invite you and your FI as a couple too.

Post # 7
715 posts
Busy bee

@weddingbee098:  Doesn’t seem like you’re all that excited about it with all those inconvenient details. I’d just decline. 

Post # 9
965 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@Ms_Purple:  said what I was going to say. 

Just because she was rude to not invite him, doesnt mean you can be rude and question it. 

Post # 10
5460 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Honestly, if you’re engaged you should have been invited as a social unit.  It would be rude of you to ask her for a plus one though :/

Considering you’d have to travel alone, without your FI, then I’d decline this one.

Post # 12
2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Nah, skip it.

There is too much to give up (not getting a date, not being with FI on his birthday, paying for a flight, taking a day off on Monday) and not enough reward (a wedding of a girl you’re not close with/who probably won’t attend your own wedding?)

I mean, I’d be tempted to take that Monday off and use that $400 to go on a mini-trip for FI’s birthday. 🙂
OR really, in my case, that $400 could go towards a new XBox for him hahaha

Post # 13
6447 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would decline. I wouldn’t want to travel alone and my vacation days are pretty precious to me- I would only take one if a very close friend or family member was getting married.

Post # 14
214 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2005

@weddingbee098:  I agree with everyone. I’d skip it. It’s not a big deal as long as you RSVP no. 

It’s not a big deal. She probobly expects a few people to decline since it’s a Sunday afternoon wedding. 

Post # 15
6525 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@weddingbee098:  i wouldn’t go. For me to pay $400, I would need to be really close to this bride…

Post # 16
1104 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

No! Just for the fact that it costs so much to attend is reason enough for me. SO isn’t invited either? That is icing on the cake (in terms of not attending).


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