Post # 1
My FI was offered a job 2 hrs away. It is a good job and he needs a change!
The tough part is that I am a full time student in our town now and my pt job is here too….Idk how well this will all work out.
Should I tell him that we should do it, or should I make an issue that everything that we have is here? I am very attached to my family and moving that far away from them is unsettling. I’m confused because we need the funds because I am not getting the paycheck that is needed.
How would you react?
What are your thoughts?
Post # 3
Can’t he go and you just stay where you are until you’re done school? Try the long distance thing?
I don’t see how you could go with him anyways, you’re not going to quit school right?
Post # 4
@FortiesFlare: Agreed! Do semi-long distance for a bit. Dont’ quit school!
Post # 5
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Since you’re studying I’d probably recommend you staying put while he moves. You can go to be with him when you’re done with studying 🙂
I’ve always been 2 or so hours away from BF, it’s not amazing but it’s certainly not as bad as it could be 🙂 especially if you can see him at weekends.
Post # 6
@FortiesFlare: That is an option. The other option is i could come down to my moms house monday and tuesdays because that are the days that i have school and work. THat also gives me time to spend with my family…
Thanks for making me think!!
Post # 7
I wouldn’t give up school to move with him. There’s nothing wrong with long distance for a little while until you’re done. 2 hours isn’t very far, you would still see eachother often and can move there when you’re finished.
Post # 8
I agree with everyone else. How much longer are you in school? My husband and I spent the first four-ish years of our relationship a couple of hours apart. Sure, not ideal, but TOTALLY manageable!
At this point, the pay from the job, as well as the professional opportunity, seem to be more important than the convenience factor, at least for now. Once you’re done with school, you two will likely have to reassess and factor in things like where your family is, etc, and make a new plan from there.
Post # 9
@eahop4: can you transfer schools? you can always find another part time job.
and 2 hours is not that far from your family you can visit on the weekends.
Post # 10
Do you live with your FI now? How long would you have to live apart until you could finish school and go be with him there? If your concern is leaving your comfort zone near your family, will you ever want to move two hours away or will your FI eventually want to look for work back where you are now?
Post # 11
2 hours is not that far from family. I would either move or do LDR