Post # 1
I kinda sorta was always planning on having an after party backyard home “reception” at my mom’s after our destination wedding (30 people just family and very close friends) for those who were not invited or couldn’t make it to the wedding. I haven’t discussed this with many people, just a few friends here and there…nothing concrete. Now…my husband and I are really not feeling it anymore. First of all, we live in Texas and my mom lives in Chicago so it would be difficult to plan from a distance. It would be at the end of June which is coming up here pretty quick but we were married at the beginning of April so I keel like it’s kinda weird to have a reception over 2 months after the wedding. Plus…I’m partied out and it would be expensive and a lot of work. Nothing has been planned or booked yet. It would be casual but probably a lot of people.
Do you think people would be disappointed or I will regret not having the home reception later?
Post # 2
If you are not thrilled to do it then I say skip it. I’m sure it wasn’t easy to plan you DW in the first place, and for a small party all the way in Chicago, it sounds like a lot of work. I don’t think anyone will be too disappointed especially if you haven’t mentioned it yet.
Post # 3
I don’t think anyone will be upset if you don’t do the backyard reception. Just dop the whole thing and go about the rest of your life! I remember howI was exhausted and relieved to be done with it all after my wedding and i can’t imagine organizing another reception!
Post # 4
JenGirl: Yeah just the thought of it tires me out, haha
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2014 - Villa Celeste
I would say no. If this was something you really wanted to do, and felt like it needed to happen then I would of course say yes. But it’s just extra planning, money and time at this point that could be directed to other things. Perhaps you could just go out to a nice meal with those who couldn’t make the wedding but would have if circumstances permitted. I feel like 2 months is a bit of a long time after the wedding anyway and I don’t think anyone will be dissapointed or upset. You could always do a nice vow renewal in a few years. But given what you said, I just don’t think it’s needed.
Post # 6
If you don’t want it, then skip it! Are people really going to ask you in two months when your AHR is? My FI and I are having a DW and we’re doing an AHR kind of out of obligation. FI feels badly for those who cannot afford to travel with us, and feels strongly about having an option they can attend. So I am going with the flow. But in my head, this is going to be a super casual backyard type affair with box wine and cheese/fruit/veggie plates! 😉
Post # 7
Lily_of_the_valley: My husband and I got married in Sweden and had planned to have a reception here in Canada (where we live) once we got back from the wedding and honeymoon. However, a few months before the wedding I already felt all “partied out”. Just like you, our wedding was small (35 people), but it took so much energy to arrange everything from a distance. I eventually told my husband that I just didn’t feel like putting in all the work and money to arrange an at home reception – turns out he was feeling just the same. So we just dropped the entire idea and we’ve not regretted it for one second.
Sounds to me like you’re very much on the same page as what I was, so based on that I think you should let go of the reception at your mums place and focus all your energy on your wedding.