Post # 1
My Fiancee thinks telling people where to sit is really awkward, and people won’t like it, but I always thought having a seating chart and name place cards were done at almost all weddings. He says it’s only for bigger weddings, like 250+ guests.I was thinking to just assign tables, instead of assigning seats. Or just no seating plan? I WILL have a seating chart for immediate family, close to the head table, regardless of whether I have a seating chart for the rest of the wedding or not.
What do you think I should do??
Post # 4
- Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa
The weddings i have been to, we were assigned a table. It’s nice because if you are getting along well with someone else at the table, you can sit and have a conversation with them anstead of shouting across the table.
If we weren’t assigned a table, it would have been too weird- like a middle school cafeteria, wondering where to sit if you don’t know most of the people.
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2013 - The Skinner Barn
Tell people which table to sit at. Otherwise, families may get split up because by the time they walk in there is only one seat left at one table, two at another, etc. It’s pretty standard for weddings over 50 I think. I’m having 80 and we’re definitely assigning tables. I think guests will appreciate the clarity
Post # 6
Assign tables for a certain number of guests, not specific seats.
I wouldn’t let everyone sit wherever they want, as some people might be left all by themselves, or around people they don’t know, or not around people they’d rather be with.
Table numbers at least tells them where they need to be, without making it like a classroom where they must sit in seat A!
Post # 7
My fiance and I are plannning to assign tables. Mostly, this helps decrease confusion. And guests like to know what they’re suposed to do so I think most guests prefer it. Plus you don’t get the one couple who was late getting seating and so can’t sit with their friends and end up with great aunt sally. And it makes he seating much faster so you don’t have to wait forever for everyone to find a seat. And I’ve been told that you should have extra dining spaces if you aren’t assigning tables so you save on tables, chairs, and centerpieces.
Post # 8
We’re having the same number of guests. Originally, I didn’t want to do a seating chart, but ultimately decided to just assign table numbers. I’ve only been to one wedding with no assigned seating, and we had to race to the reception area so that I could get a table with FI’s dad because I didn’t know anyone else, and FI was at the head table (and was, unfortunately, for most of the reception).
Having been to two weddings who have done this, please seat large groups of friends at tables next to each other. We’ve been to two friends’ weddings (from the same group of friends), and at both weddings, they split up the group on opposite sides of the room, which was really annoying. We took up three tables at one, and the third table was across the tent, and two tables at the other, and the second table was on the other side of the room.
Post # 9
Assign tables not seats, no matter what the size. I feel the opposite of your fiancé, it’s completely awkward to have to find a seat when everyone that is all buddy buddy has already claimed tables and is saving seats for their other friends. In my experience, as a guest and a bride, it’s much more enjoyable to be sat at a table with people whom the bride and groom feel you would have something in common with. when I looked out on our wedding every table was laughing and talking, even the strangers that were sat together. I also noticed many new Facebook friendships form among our friends who were previously strangers, after the wedding.
Post # 10
At the very least I would assign people to tables because to not have any seating chart would result in utter chaos…okay maybe that’s extreme but I think a lot of people would be confused and seating the guests would take 3 times as long.
All the weddings I’ve attended have had some sort of seating assignment–sometimes by table, sometimes by specific seat. I think it just helps things go more smoothly.
Post # 11
I had a 82 person wedding, and had assigned tables, but not assigned seats.
Post # 12
Boo I wanted opinions! 🙁
**edit : Sorry! I didn’t see any replies. 🙂 Thanks so much everyone.
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2013 - The Skinner Barn
@silkspectre94: ….you got 8 comments worth of opinions lol
Post # 14
@FutureMrsWeston: Whoa!! I kept refreshing there weren’t any replies!! Yaaay 🙂 Thanks everyone. Sorry for the bumps!!