- 5 years ago
Sorry this is so long. All of my posts seem to come with baggage, lol…
I’m not engaged yet (I feel like it’s about to happen on Christmas!) but…
I’ve been having second thoughts about having a wedding all together.
My older sister (11 years older than me) had a fabulous wedding. At the time, my dad had a nice paying job.. so he went all out for her. I remember being so mesmerized by it (I was 11 or 12 at the time…). It was truly magical.
Now it’s been 17-18 years later, a lot of people in my family are a lot older, and sicker. One of my uncles has passed away, all of my cousin’s now have their own families and babies to take care of, my dad is retired, and he and my mom are struggling financially, my mom can barely walk because she’s let herself go health-wise…
I don’t think my wedding would have… the… energy (for lack of a better word) that I’m looking for, (or that my sister’s wedding had).
I wanted to have a photo booth, a candy table, a mashed potato bar w/ tons of toppings, a big jazz band… my aunt has a gorgeous backyard with a beautiful garden, I wanted to have the ceremony and reception there (if she’d let me).
No one in either of our families would enjoy that.
Our friends would enjoy it. Our friends would LOVE it. But my family? Nope. His family? Nope. (His family is kind of the same, except they’re all stuck up and have this holier-than-thou attitude. Totally different story for a totally different section in these forums, lol.)
How am I supposed to have a wedding with no family?
So now I’m stuck with:
1.) Elope, therefore breaking my mom’s heart; then have a random, nice, expensive, party with our friends afterward.
2.) Have a boring wedding and hate the entire evening because it feels like a funeral and everyone will go home early and no one will dance.
Any advice? Please??