(Closed) Should I have any say in this?

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

oh you definitely have a say if you have a joint account!  you both need to agree on a big expense like that.  i would be worried if he spent a large chunk of your joint money when you said no!!!

 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

can you set a limit on the price of gifts?  my FI and i have joint accounts and we set a $200 limit for gifts for each other. 

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@summerbride12: if you’re gonna be wearing it, then YES you should have a say!!!  Plus joint accounts also should mean you have a say in it.

maybe you could show him alternatives?  things you love and just tell him you HATE big gaudy necklaces?  

who knows, maybe he’s doing this to try and surprise you with something small and simple??  

Post # 8
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Helper bee

I would be upset too if I were you! I think you should try to talk to him again and explain that while you love that he’s getting you the gift, it just isn’t what you want. He should want to get you something you like, otherwise why bother?

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

You can always give him the blood diamond story if that deter him.

But yes, it would be major bummer if he bought the necklace and it’s not your style.  Sounds like he’s been brainwashed by the masses that diamonds are the only way to show love.  Maybe find some images online of necklaces you like and show him?

 

And cost is an issue.  He has to be willing to talk about the cost or he’ll buy things disproportionate to the need.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

You can always give him the blood diamond story if that deter him.

But yes, it would be major bummer if he bought the necklace and it’s not your style.  Sounds like he’s been brainwashed by the masses that diamonds are the only way to show love.  Maybe find some images online of necklaces you like and show him?

 

And cost is an issue.  He has to be willing to talk about the cost or he’ll buy things disproportionate to the need.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

I say you put a price range that you both have to stick by and if he insists on getting a flashy neclace say to him that you dont want something that expensive bc you want to start your life together as a married couple strong financially .. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

show him normal size jewelry that you wear and tell him that you won’t wear anything bigger than that. Its great that he wants to go above and beyond for you, but he has to be realistic. He won’t like that you don’t wear it! lol

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