So here’s the situation. I have 2 sisters, we are very close. I am having a small destination wedding (about 20 people). My Fiance will not have any groomsmen (his BFF decided that he didn’t want to go to our Destination Wedding, long story, so Fiance didn’t even as him to be his best man). I’m pretty mad about that but I’ll save that for another post!
So would it be stupid to have 2 bridesmaids with no groomsmen?? There is also a small possibility that one of my sisters will not be able to make it, if that happens, would it be stupid to have just 1 bridesmaid?
The sad part of all of this is that my Fiance will only have 2 people there that are his friends, everyone else is from my side.
My mom is set on having bridesmaids (she is very traditional). I would like to have them too but just not sure how it will look in pictures. The biggest issue right now is deciding if I need to pick out a dress or just have my sisters be guests at the wedding and wear whatever they want.
Wow. The history of having bridesmides were to confuse evil spirits as to who to attack during the ceremony. The best man was by the groom’s side to be his guard against the bride’s family. (The bride was usually kidnapped) Now that’s pretty crazy.
Hun, this is supoosed to be about you yet it seems it’s about everyone else ie: who attends the wedding who’s in the wedding. What and who is your priority? To please the pictoral symetry, your mom? Go with your gut. I had 1 “maid-of-honor” who wasn’t very cooperative through out the process. SHe got chucked and another “filled in” I guess for appearances.
She is a great friend but was a single girl who knew nothing about planning, prepping and crisis control. That’s what a REAL bridal party does. They assist you on this journey. Everyone in your family might want to make this amazing day about them, DONT LET THEM! This is your celebration with your Fiance. It’s supposed to be fun.
Having a destination wedding is a smart idea. Guest can’t leave early from the party and people who adore you will make the investment to set aside money and time to join you. This is your new life. You and your Fiance might need to edit people out of your new chapter…
Here is my processional with my 1 bridesmaid. My party was so small I had everyone come down the aisle, even the groom! Good luck and CONGRATULATIONS love!
@emeryg1: OMG, That has to be the BEST recessional/processional. EVER! I’m not hispanic, but from Miami so I remember jamming to that song in high school among a bunch of others. I literally got up to dance with you guys down the aisle! I’ll bet your guests had a blast at your wedding reception and you looked absolutely gorgeous!
@newloves1975: I think you should do what you want so that when you look back, you don’t have any regrets. If you are happy with 1 bridesmaid, then have 1 bridesmaid. You should be able to plan the details of your wedding the way you like them. Mom will always have an opinion, and although it’s great to involve her in the planning process, ultimately you need to be happy with the result. Good luck and congrats!
@newloves1975: Have whoever you can not see yourself up there without- whether that be 20 people or no one. They shoudl be people who are closest to you, who you want to share lifes special moments with and who support your decison to marry and not as @emeryg1: commented the person who can do the most planning, prepping and crisis control.
I also think it is wrong of your Fiance to be upset with his best friend because he declined to come to your Destination Wedding. DW’s are a lot to ask of guests and even those who would really love to be there on your wedding day sometimes have to decline because of life circumstances such as work or finances. This doesn’t mean they don’t love and support you- just that they can’t make the DW!
Thank you everyone for your encouraging words. I just told my sister that we will have bridesmaids, and I’m picking her dress!! 🙂 🙂
@j_jaye: Just to clarify, Fiance isn’t mad at his friend for not coming. I AM! I totally understand the whole money, work, can’t come to the Destination Wedding thing. But his friend is loaded, owns his own business, and only goes to work when he feels like it. He is one of the laziest people I think I have ever met. It hurts me that he would rather sit on a chair in front of the tv with a big glass of whiskey, than to go to his so called “best friends” wedding. Deep down, I think that the BFF doesn’t like the fact that I took his drinking buddy away from him 🙁
We as women often see things much differently than out Fiance do.
@emeryg1: That video was awesome, it looked like so much fun.
@newloves1975: I hope you have all the more fun at your wedding! So glad you figured it out. and about the so called best man, if your Fiance isn’t mad, let it roll. The fact that you’re peeved, honey I get it! Your passionate about your man…I can respect that;)
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