Post # 1
Just a little background info on my situation. My fiance’s brother has a little girl (A) who is 2 years old, and will be our flower girl. Brother and baby mama haven’t been in a relationship for over a year now, and aren’t on very good terms. Fiance and I have been watching A at least once a month but mostly every other weekend at our house for a year now. Brother has a problem with us spending so much time with her and taking pictures of her, because he is jealous because A now has a great relationship with us, and not him because he left BY CHOICE and moved 15 hours away for 8 months! Brother whines that we are trying to be her parents. We are just loving a child. He is back now and continues to cause problems. Baby mama has no problem letting A be a part of lives. Sorry if not all of this makes sense, I was trying to condense it as much as possible.
This is my dress
from David’s Bridal.
They have a flower girl’s dress that matches mine.
My question is should I save myself from the drama and pick another dress for her to wear or say screw the brother. It’s my and my FI’s wedding and we will pick what we want for her to wear?
Post # 3
Im confused, did your FI’s brother say he didnt want her to wear a dress that matches yours?
Post # 4
I’m a little confused – why does her dress matching yours become an issue here?? He knows she’s the Flower Girl, right?
Post # 6
He knows she is, but we know he would have a problem with her dress matching mine because he already says we are trying to be her parents. It’s just a long never ending battle with him
Post # 7
My fiance and I will be paying for it.
Post # 8
He doesn’t want her dress to match yours? Has he said this?
Post # 9
@ticatica: No he hasn’t said it, but my fiance and I know how he would react to it.
Post # 10
Your FI’s brother is giving me a headache, I think you should do whatever will cause you less stress in the long run. If you dont want it to be an issue down the line then pick a different dress, if you know you’re going to hear it from him and dont care then pick the matching dress.
Post # 11
I am so confused… you are just assuming he will have a problem with it?
Maybe he will, maybe he won’t. Who cares though?
Pick whatever dress you like.
Post # 12
@lindsayandchris09: In terms of the situation, pick whatever you like. But I would suggest picking something a bit more appropriate for a toddler, it doesn’t look very comfortable for a little one.
Post # 13
I’m confused, why would you want the flower girl to wear a matching dress? I say do whatever you want, but I definitely would pick a more colorful and more fun dress for the younger one, it would be a pain if the little one was unconfortable during the ceremony.
Post # 14
I agree with @Cappugcino:. I think, as the bride, you certainly may choose whatever dress you would like your Flower Girl to wear. However, from a practical standpoint, the design and style of that dress doesn’t seem as if it would work very well in a 24-month or 2T size (there may not be enought height over which to spread so many design elements as there is with your gown or an older child’s size.) Also, this is just my opinion, but I think from a design/style perspective, it would be best if your FGs dress was the same color as yours but wasn’t an exact, mini-replica. I think your dress should be completely special and unique, and not necessarily reproduced in miniature on the flower girl. Again, that is just my opinion, however.
Post # 15
I didn’t vote for either, because I don’t like it when the flower girl looks like a little bride and/or matches the bride.
So, I’d just vote for a plain old “no.”
Post # 16
I agree with PPs. You can pick whatever dress you want her to wear, especially if you’re paying for it. Honestly, he’s a guy, don’t tell him and he may not even notice. However, I’m not sure that design would work on a toddler so maybe it’s not even an issue.