Weddingbee boards

I had a (distant) cousin facebook me that she cant wait to see how my wedding turns out but she isn't invited. I ignored the comment, maybe she means can't wait to see the pics on facebook for all I know.

But it got me thinking, I have been obsessed with all things wedding and a lot of my fb posts have been about all the wedding progress and amazing deals I have found.

Should I stop posting stuff about the wedding?

Do you post anything on your facebook about it?  what do you think the ettiquite is?

I can't do the whole " we are having a small intimate wedding thing" cause our guest list is at 226. I have been very honest to all friends and fam and have even posted on fb that it was so hard to budget for the wedding and that we were upset we can't have everyone we want there. So.... what do you think? Should I shut my mouth now before it's too late?

I didn't post about it at all. I thought it was kind of like talking about it with a group of people who weren't invited. If someone posted about it on my wall ("I can't wait until Oct. 1!"), I just said something generic like "I'm getting so excited!"

@Wonderstruck:that's what I started thinking...but then I thought, I have friends on fb who have done the same, and I didn't make an assumtion about being invited. but then again i have gone through many weddings and I totally "get" the whole it's hard to make the cut. I was happy to hear of their progress and enjoyed seeing their posted pics. It never occured to me that someone else would think they were invited cause they saw a post on fb til my cousin put that on my page. She is married to my 9th cousin twice removed. That is how distant she is.

@galloway111:"Okay, that doesn't even count as a cousin. My FI is my 7th cousin and everyone agrees it's fine, lol."

that's hella funny! My Matron of honor is my 9th cousin, we are so barely related but I am closer to her than my first cousins. I almost didnt invite my first cousins who I grew up with cause I never see them. I see and talk to my Matron of Honor (9th cousin) on a daily/weekly basis.

I only post when its something like "I just saved $300 on invites!" or "I just got all 200 of our thank you cards and place settings for $10!" or "I got 60 save the dates for one penny, God Bless Clearance bins!" or " How many people did you have at your wedding?" ... tacky?

I am a self admitted fb whore. But I don't only post about my wedding. Being on the bees boards has helped me channel my obession to the proper venue!

I guess it depends who you have friended. I have about 300 friends (mostly sorority) and I know a lot of people from college who would expect to be invited. I didn't want to deal with that. We only had a budget for 75 people. Once we were married, I started posting pictures. :)

hmm, I have about 300 fb friends and maybe a lot of them are people from elementary, middle school and high school or people I worked with over 7 years ago that found me and wanted to keep in touch.  I am sure they wouldn't think they would be invited. I have a few coworkers who I hide my posts from and just bout everyone else is family. looks like the trend is to be vauge about it. SOOOO hard! im SO excited about my wedding! :(

but that is what wedding bees is all about huh? being about to vent and share without pissing off your close loved ones lol!

My wedding is going to be a small DW.. I post about it maybe 2-3 times a month, but I try not to say to much because about 97% of my friends list will not be invited, LoL.  I've already had a couple of people seemingly invite themselves *sigh*.

Even if we had gone with the invite only immeadiate family route I would have known my family on fb would understand. My fam would just understand (shrug). Of my whole family, and my dad has 10 brothers and sisters, only my 2 sisters and my parents have had a traditional wedding. Everyone else eloped. The only thing getting me through planning my wedding is the idea that it is MY wedding...ok ok OUR wedding and we can do what we want and if people judge me for being tacky or whatever then that it was thier deal not mine. All my friends are married and so they have gone through it and understand. I just thought I was commiting this HUGE ettiquite error and was out and out rude.

I rarely post on FB in general (I just checked and my last post was on Aug 11 LOL) and I've never posted about my wedding.  Not because I don't want people to think they're invited, but just because I'm a private person and don't post stuff.  I changed my status to engaged but immediately deleted it off the newsfeed so no one would comment on it!  Some of our mutual friends who knew wrote on my wall, and one of my former coworkers who is a good friend wrote on another coworkers wall so people at work knew before I got back from my trip.

Like PPs, I actually like reading other people's statuses about their planning (in moderation!) or reading their wedding websites if they share a link.  I just don't want random people reading about my stuff.

We invited 80 people (40 guests per each of us) to our wedding, but posted stuff about my wedding on FB occasionally. I never said stuff like "OMG this is going to be the BEST party of the year lololomg"...I would just occasionally post about how excited and happy I was to marry my FI and a few DIY projects, and answer questions people asked. I set up a website on the knot for guests to look at.

Everyone's sitch is different obviously, but maybe it wouldn't be a bad idea to keep it on the down low, or just do what the others suggested and start a private list that includes only your wedding guests.

 I only had one problem with my wedding on FB and that was an old friend's drunk mother posting this gem in a convo that I was having with another person: "Jessica. I cannot believe you didn't invite daughter's name to your wedding! You have been friends since highschool!" ummm, no actually she hasn't spoken to me since HS, BUTT OUT! Who does that??!