Post # 1
I have a bit of a problem. I recently moved to Chicago and don’t know a lot of people here. Most of the gals I would invite to my bachelorette party are from Milwaukee (where I grew up – 1 1/2 hr drive), Arizona (where I went to undergrad), California (AZ friends), or the East Coast (where I went to grad school). Even my fiancé’s sisters (who are bridesmaids) live in Colorado and Iowa. There are only about 8 or so people I know who actually live in Chicago: friends of my fiancé, some of his cousins (who I know relatively well), and some of my cousins (who I don’t know that well). Then there about six friends who live in Milwaukee (4 of 6 have children so I am not sure they can come to the bachelorette party anyways) and the rest of my friends and relatives live across the country.
I suggested to my Maid/Matron of Honor that we have the bachelorette party the night before the wedding. I thought it was a great solution to my spread out crew because that way all of the ladies attending the wedding could come, but she thought it would be too much. She said she didn’t want to go out two night in a row and thought we would be too tired. However, we have an evening wedding, so we wouldn’t have to be up that early and could easily keep it low-key. I figure we could just go out to a few bars after my rehearsal dinner, which will likely end around 9pm or 10pm.
Does anyone have any experience with this? Is it a terrible idea? I don’t want to burden people with back-to-back events, but I also don’t want a bachelorette party that could possibly only have five people. Also, do you think Thursday is better? Would Out of Town guests get here by then?
Post # 3
I would at least do it Thursday night. Not in a hundred years would I do it the night before.
Waaaaaaaaaaaaay too many episodes of Bridezilla where someone thought that was a good idea and everyone’s hungover, cranky, or sleeps in waaaaaaay late.
Post # 4
- Wedding: April 2012 - St. Philip Catholic Church/Arcadia Brewing Co.
I think it would be fun to go out after rehersal dinner, but I would want it to be with Fiance and everyone. Not just a girls thing and not too late into the night (I <3 my beauty sleep) I would have a bachelorette the week before with whoever can make it to Chicago and call it good.
What time is your wedding ceremony?
Post # 5
I say not the night before the wedding. But any other night would be fine. 🙂
Post # 6
Neither my husband or I had a bach party mostly because he doesnt have many friends here so we waiting until the thursday before our wedding when most of our friends came into town and had a little shindig then. it was lots of fun!
Post # 7
@paut0012: Hahaha if it’s going to be anything like mine, DON’T do it before the wedding! But, if like you said, it will be low key, I suppose you could. I think maybe Thursday would be better.
Post # 8
I’m planning for a pretty low key bachelorette party, too, and we are doing it the Friday before my Sunday wedding. I didn’t want people to have to travel twice (most of my BMs are OOT), but I also didn’t want to have to go to bed early or watch my drinking (not that I would get incoherent, but I don’t want more than a glass or two the night before my wedding). Everyone seems happy with my decision so far, I’ll let you know how it goes after May 4th 🙂
Post # 9
@aardvark: The ceremony is at 6pm, so we probably don’t need to get to hair and makeup until 11am or noon.
Post # 10
ooo terrible idea… get your rest the night before the wedding. Even the week of your wedding is stressful, you won’t believe how many last minute things you’ll have to get done – I was up late every night that week finalizing seating charts/placecards, assembling programs, menus, putting together boxes of decor, packing, coordinating with vendors, dropping off out-of-town bags, the rehearsal dinner, the bridesmaids luncheon… At least a week before, but better to do it a month before. And 1-1/2 hours isn’t a very far drive, just get a hotel suite for everyone to crash at afterwards!
Post # 11
I agree, not the night before the wedding… you may be too stressed out to enjoy it. At least have it on the Thursday before.
Post # 12
@reebee: I agree! I live in Milwaukee and love excuses to come down to Chicago! If I had kids I would have no problem leaving them with dad or a babysitter!
Post # 13
I’m having my bachelorette the Friday night before the wedding (it’s a Destination Wedding in Vegas). The wedding will be at 6:30pm on Saturday so I feel that people will be able to recover from a hard night of drinking if it DOES happen. All of the guests I’d want there are coming from out of town so having a party any earlier back at home would be pointless as nobody would show up and there is NO way I’m going to ask people to take an extra day off of work to come in Thursday! I think for your situation (slightly similar to mine), you don’t really have a choice. The only difference between our situations is my Maid/Matron of Honor and BMs support the Friday bachelorette plan! I’ve gotten a lot of “nays” here on the boards.. but sometimes there’s not much you can do when people aren’t in the immediate vicinity and you really want them there!
Post # 14
@auggiefrog: A Wisconsinite who comes down to Chicago all of the time? I wish my friends would do that! They actually hate coming down here because of the traffic. I don’t get it because it’s not that bad… lol
Post # 15
TERRIBLE idea to have it the night before. Even if you’re not hung over, there’s a good chance someone will be in your bridal party. I think Thursday is a good compromise!
Post # 16
I just got to say I shuddered at the thought of the night before 🙂 You want to look refreshed the day of!