Post # 1
Heya bees!! I am kind of in a weird situation and need some advice. My husband and I have been legally married since October, but are doing our “celebration of marriage” in March. We are still doing a ceremony, but just have written our own vows and won’t be doing a ring exchange. My question is, should I still have my dad escort me down the aisle? For most of our guests, this is more like our actual wedding. I also am scared of hurting my dad’s feelings by not asking him to do this honor. However, since we are already technically married, I do not need to be “given away,” which is the point of being walked down the aisle.
What do you guys think? I would love some thoughts on this!
Post # 3
I say just ask him. It’s more the act of letting him feel like he’s walking his little girl down the aisle rather than you’re “being given away”.
Post # 4
I would. Just because my dad would be bummed if he didnt get to and when will he ever get the chance for this to happen again? Yes, technically you dont need to be “given away” since you are already legally married, so I dont think it would hurt! Is it important to you at all (sentimentally)?
Post # 5
I think you should! It is a very nice gesture and since he didn’t get the opportunity to do so at your actual marriage (or did he?), it would be nice to give him that opportunity to do it in front of all your close family and friends.
Post # 8
I think you should do it – not so much for the meaning of him “giving you away” but to have him be part of the wedding and for you to share a special moment with him as well. I’ve been living with my fiance for over a year now and my dad has been mostly out of my life since the age of 10 and I decided to have him and my mom walk me down the isle…. for the pictures, for the memories, for the moment… <3
Post # 10
I agree with PP, definitely ask him. It may be something he’s looked forward to since you were a baby. I think even if it doesn’t matter to you, it’ll really mean a lot to him.
Post # 11
Thanks everyone for your thoughts! I really want him to walk me down the aisle. I think he would be sad if I didn’t ask him. I just wasn’t sure if people would think it was weird since we are already married. Thanks!
Post # 12
@SamanthaSadlier: I don’t think anyone would think it’s weird. And if they do, oh well. It’s your day, do what feels right to you
Post # 13
I’m having my dad walk me down the aisle because it will be amazing to have him by my side and support me during the walk. I don’t believe in being given away but I will love having him there. If you don’t NOT want him there, I’d ask him, he’s probably looking forward to it!