Post # 1
So I took the plunge and bought a used Sabelle dress by Maggie Sottero, without trying it on. Very excited! And slightly nervous about the fit and all. I’m 5’9”, the ‘perfect’ height for Maggie dresses that I tried on before, but a little nervous about the corset size fitting. I have faith in Maggie though. J
Anyway, I live in Switzerland, so it made more sense to ship the dress in the US to my mom and have her bring it to me when she comes for my civil ceremony next month. Our church wedding won’t be until autumn 2011. My mom has asked me if it makes sense after I try it on and see how it fits, if she should just take it back with her to the States so that it’s there for the church wedding.
Reasons why it’s a good idea:
- I wouldn’t have to worry about something happening to the dress when I’m flying to the wedding
- I would have a lot less luggage on the way there. (Although I do plan on taking it back to Switzerland with me to re-sell it here for a better price than I’d get in America).
- She can steam/press it and have it hanging before I come and we wouldn’t have to rush to do it after I get off the plane.
- I wouldn’t have to worry about storing it in my small Swiss apt
- The FI wouldn’t have to worry about seeing it because we live together
Reasons why I hesitate:
- Well first, I don’t know how it fits first! Lol, I have to see if it even works before I decide about keeping it here or there.
- I don’t know what I’m doing about the bustle! If I put a bustle on myself, have it done here in Switzerland, or have my mom do it… I don’t know I would want to figure this out.
- I haven’t bought shoes yet… so I couldn’t try them on with the dress. I could just try on similar height shoes I already have and get something the same height… I’m planning on coloured shoes so they don’t really have to match.
- I haven’t picked out jewellery, decided on a hairstyle, veil etc. My mom has offered to make my veil, but I would definitely want the veil with me ahead of time so I could practice hairstyling with it. Still not sure if I will get a hairdresser, but I’d want a backup plan I can do myself.
- I was maybe thinking about doing a coloured crinoline petticoat to match my FI’s tie or my MOH’s dress… but I would want the dress with me to decide on how much poofiness would look good, colour matching, etc. But maybe this dress has so much going on already that coloured crinoline is just too much or it doesn’t even need extra crinoline.
What do you bees think?? Would you send your wedding dress back across the ocean to be stored for 14 months before your wedding? I probably won’t have the opportunity to go visit my parents again before the wedding next year… but who knows, it’s never out of the question.
Post # 3
I’m in a similar situation and my dress lives at my parents house. I would suggets trying to order a pair or two of shoes before your mom comes so she can bring them over with the dress and you can try the m on together. I tend to find the shoe selection online to be better than in local stores and most websites ship to the US. Provided that the dress fits, I think you should send it back with your mom for all the reasons you mentioned above and also to know it is safely waiting for you. If the dress is used, does it already have a bustle? Take pictures of yourself in the dress and you should be fine for deciding on necklace, veil, hair style etc. I also find that you can just put on something with a similar neckline to determine hair style. Also, you’ll prob. have lots of various things you will want to bring with you and no excess room to transport a dress as well. We had a long engagement and took stuff over in several trips but you will be suprised what you accumulate and need to fit in your suitcase and most airlines only allow 1 piece of luggage.
I highly recommend a wedding planning vacation week or two, there are just some things you will feel more comfortable doing in person and while you are visiting/planning you cna take care of all the dress issues (alterations, veil, ets.). From my experience, these planning weeks were so necesary. We lengthened our Christ mas stay and then I flew back alone for a week which coincided with the wedding of a friend and allowed me to finish up some DIY and meet with vendors and get my veil made and try on my dress post alterations.
Post # 4
@slicey19: Hmm, yeah I’m wondering how to do it. We will need to spend most of our alotted holidays on the actual wedding because we need about a week for the wedding and two weeks for the honeymoon.
I would maybe have time at Christmas to go, but I already went home last year for Christmas and spent it apart from the FI because he couldn’t get time off work. He was already sad when I mentioned the possiblity of going home again for Christmas if he’s not free, so I really don’t want to go without him!
I am pretty sure the dress was not bustled before, because the seller didn’t mention it. I’ll have to ask my mom what we can do about it if it’s not in there. She will be doing the minor alterations I should need.
What kind of stuff have you brought/are you bringing with you? I will be bringing the dress back to Switzerland with me anyway, so I’d have to deal with it on the plane at some point.
Post # 5
Hmm, people seem to be leaning towards just giving it back to her. Anybody else have thoughts?
Post # 6
you have to try the dress on a while before your wedding…. i thought i was the right size too, (im 5’9”, and size 2) but my size 2 sabelle has a very short torso, and i need a size 4 now.
it will give you peace of mind!
Post # 7
@dalucioni: Don’t worry I did try her on! My mother flew to Switzerland for our civil union, so I tried her on our wedding day. (How appropriate!) She fit absolutely perfectly… so I just have to hope (like every other bride) that I don’t gain or lose a bunch of weight before the big day! 🙂
But sadly she had to go back with my mom… so I can’t sneak and try her on whenever I want. Maybe this is a good thing…