should I have said nothing? (facebook mini rant… i know, i know)

posted 2 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: was i wrong to say something?
    yes : (12 votes)
    16 %
    no : (64 votes)
    84 %
  • Post # 2
    8847 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    I totally would have too if some random ass was being seemingly racist on my facebook.  And it turns out he’s a meddling jerk as well.  

    Post # 3
    867 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    He sounds insanely immature. Don’t let it bother you, your FI knows you are obviously wife material. Anyone who dsnt tolerate racist Facebook posts is absolutly wife material anyway, he’s just po’d you called him out to his buddy. 

    Post # 4
    1248 posts
    Bumble bee

    im gonna stay away from the obama stuff, and whether either of you were in the right or wrong. BUT what he sent to your FI is just plain RUDE! my jaw dropped when i saw that! your comment did not warrant that type of response. hes an idiot

    Post # 5
    864 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    MrsMcQN:  honestly…it’s facebook. i would have just deleted his comment and not said anything (because deleting it says enough about the fact that you don’t approve; it’s racist, of course you dont’!). if he still came back and said anything over it, and for future reference, all you need to do is respond by saying that it could be offensive to some and that you don’t want to have it on the thread. 

    also i’m kind of confused–were you posting on your fb or on your FI’s account? 

    regardless…unless the friend posted something legitimately offensive about you, i don’t even think you would need to text your FI about it. have a laugh about how clueless the friend is when you get home, but i think you overreacted. and i think the friend is being a dick too.

    when it comes to facebook: i say just drop it.

    • This reply was modified 2 years, 2 months ago by  MrsHalpert.
    Post # 6
    6674 posts
    Bee Keeper

    That was a disgusting remark which anyone with half a brain would consider racist. I would have deleted the photo immediately and PMed him privately to tell him why.  

    Post # 7
    5222 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I am by no stretch of the imagination an Obama fan, but I wouldn’t tolerate that type of thing at all. This is why I don’t post political stuff on Facebook, because by doing so (even “innocent” stuff) you open up the dialogue for people to start giving their unwanted opinions. Sounds like a learning lesson: you learned what a giant jerk that guy is. 

    Post # 8
    4649 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    MrsMcQN:  I didn’t look at either link, but what he posted sounds racist to me. So that makes him a major jacka$$. And since he’s a jacka$$ I would expect him to say something jacka$$ery to your FI. I would’ve said something. There’s all sorts of stupid stuff on FB, but racist stuff ain’t gonna fly with me.

    Post # 9
    1244 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    MrsMcQN:  I’m glad you said something! Too often people let ignorant comments and posts like his slide and it’s not ok. He probably just got embarassed that he got called out and that’s why he made that nasty comment. Bottom line that meme is offensive and I wouldn’t want that tied to my post either.

    Post # 10
    952 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Merritt Winery


    MrsMcQN:  Don’t let some racist jerkmake you question your “wife material” status.  You spoke up for something you didn’t agree with.  I think that makes you amazing wife material!

    Post # 13
    2649 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I am glad you said something. I hate the passive agressive aproach of deleting things or ignoring comments… grinds my gears!

    Post # 14
    3806 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    MrsMcQN:  As a Black woman, I’d like to thank you for saying something. Thank you for calling him on his pseudo-racist ish. People love to backpedal once they realize no one finds their little sly comments funny. I’m glad you said something. Never let anyone question what you believe in. He was an asshole. You called him on it. (And you know you did because he offered up an excuse that didn’t make ANY sense. I’m on social media a lot and I’ve NEVER seen a meme called “give that man a watermelon”).



    Post # 15
    2007 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    MrsMcQN:  He sounds like an immature bigot, don’t let it get to you.

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