Post # 1
So during a conversation my SO just referred to his friend’s wife as “his girl.” I corrected him and said they are married, not boyfriend and girlfriend. He said, “I think of it as the same thing.” WTF?! Should I have said something?
Post # 3
I would have jokingly said, “I guess we’re married, then!”
Just to see his reaction.
Sometimes my SO likes to say this. He says he already thinks of me as his wife in his heart. So, I don’t know, maybe your SO looks at it the same way.
Post # 4
I don’t see the problem. It sounds like just a cute term to refer to someone’s partner? I always talk to my best friend about “her man” or “her boy” and they’re definetly married. I’m sure he doesn’t think gf/bf and husband/wife are the same thing…he probably just uses the term loosely.
Post # 5
I don’t see a problem with it.
Post # 6
I wouldn’t read much into it. When Darling Husband comes home, and finds me wherever I happen to be in the house, he often says “oh, there’s my best/favourite girl”. I’m fairly certain he knows we’re married 😛
Post # 7
Its not a big deal. She is his girl. Clearly he knows their married so I don’t see what the issue is. I wouldn’t have said anything to begin with.
Post # 8
He didn’t call her “his girlFRIEND,” just “his girl.” That’s totally fine. His girl is like the word apple. It can refer to a girlfriend or a wife without specifying which one it is. If someone asks you what you’re eating you usually say, “an apple” not “a Fuji” and people still understand. You don’t always have to refer to someone by their legal title. Which is why people use names like his girl, or her man, or his partner, or her SO, etc. It’s really not a big deal. I woudn’t have said anything either.
Post # 9
My issue was moreso the fact that he said girlfriend and wife are all the same. To me that was similar to the bees whose SO’s say they consider them to already be married. If my SO thinks it is all the same, he would have little motivation to move our relationship forward.
Post # 10
Did he specifically say that “girlfriend” and wife were the same, or was he saying that “girl” and “wife” were the same?
No matter stage of our relationship we’re in, I’ll always be FI’s girl.
Post # 11
@MissMaryMc: This! This is how I intepreted what he said. Unless he specified differently, I’m thinking he meant that the term “his girl” and “his wife” are the same thing. I wouldn’t stress out over terminology unless he specifically says it’s a reason not to be engaged. My SO jokingly calls me his wife all the time and I know he doesn’t honestly think it’s the same 😛
Post # 12
My fiance calls me his “old lady” so.. I wouldn’t be too worried about “his girl”. Haha