Post # 1
For brides who had to organize their own wedding (i.e. bring in your own catering, music, rentals, etc), did you have a day of coordinator?
Two of our guests have offered to be our day of coordinators to help with logistics. They aren’t close family or friends and I think they would help us out a lot. However, I’m wondering if I should hire someone who has more experience in the wedding business? We’re trying to get married on the cheap, so I would really rather not hire someone, but will if it’s necessary.
Did you have a DOC or wedding planner?
Post # 3
I wasn’t planning on hiring one until I went to a good friends wedding and saw how AWESOME they are! I had priced one out and it was $1000 for the basics, so decided against it, but her DOC was only $400 – which is 100% worth it! They make sure that everything just flows smoothly – from making sure your dress looks right before you walk down the aisle, to ensuring your grandparents are seated properly, to making sure the lights are correct and the DJ is ready…..
If you can find one at a good price, 100% get one. However, if they are really pricey in your area you will be fine with just the family friends.
Post # 4
@happyheidi1984: Thanks for the reply! A friend of my MOH actually works for an event planning company and they do a LOT of weddings. I’ve been thinking about asking her to be my DOC if she could do it on the side. I have a feeling hiring her through the company she works for would be very expensive. But I’m not sure if she would want to or even be allowed to do it on the side (no one has to know, but I don’t want her to lose her job over doing me a favor!). She and her FI are a lot of fun so I wouldn’t mind inviting him to enjoy the festivities as well.
Post # 5
We decided to hire one so I could completely enjoy the day and (try) not to worry. My mother is also a worrier and she wanted this wayy more than me so she offered to pay. Not cheap though – ours is $1,600 after we negotiated. She was originally $1,900 but that’s for about 6 weeks before the wedding through the day but she handles all the vendors, deliveries, timelines, rehearsal, etc. I’m so happy we decided to do it.
Post # 6
@MichiganGirl24: Work those connections!
Post # 7
@happyheidi1984: I just checked her company’s website.. Packages start at $960. Yikes!
Definitely going to be sending her a FB message about doing it on the side!
Post # 8
I’m in a similar situation to you. I’m planning all my own catering, bar, etc and I think I’m going to hire a DOC for that reason. I’ve had a family member offer to be in charge on the day, which is really sweet of her, but the reality is anyone who is a friend or family member is going to be distracted by wanting to talk to friends, enjoy the day, etc. Plus I want it to be someone who knows about all the things that can go wrong with a wedding, and feels that their fee might be on the line if they don’t deal with it, haha. I’m sure it’s possible to do without one, but I’m sure it will add to your enjoyment of your day a lot to know everything is being taken care of by a professional!
Post # 9
I had one, and it was one of the best wedding-related decisions I made. I did not want to ask any one of my guests to work for me, even for a little while, at the wedding, as they were there as guests, not vendors.
The coordinator handles much more than just vendors — she makes sure you are running on schedule, puts out any fires, and coordinates between the vendors (making sure the photographer and DJ are on point, specifically for the dances/cake cutting, etc)
Post # 10
Definitely recommend hiring a DOC! Usually the DOC will start taking over tasks 45 days before the wedding (if your DOC package includes this), this help will ensure you don’t get too stress out before the wedding.
Alot of things also happen unexpectedly on the wedding day, DOC should have the experience it takes to smooth things out on the back end. This also ensure you and your guests will enjoy the day!
DOC was the first vendor I hired after we got the venue (our venue also requires us to hire DOC). Since our DOC have worked at the same venue before, she was able to recommend vendors and provide helpful tips (such as where to take pictures before the ceremony) The DOC is also important if you have any rentals coming onsite, he/she knows actually the delivery policy to the venue, without you directly reaching out to the venue. I also find that sometimes the venue managers may not be as responsive as my DOC.
Post # 11
@MichiganGirl24: my BFF’s reception was last weekend. It was catered by the venue. All we had to do was decorate and set up the dessert table. It was so hectic & crazy my very frugal SO is now insisting we hire a DOC. So yes, I suggest you do!