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I don't think you need one, with a Reception site coordinator. See if someone you know has done something like this before and can help out with the rehearsal. If not, you can work it out there! To pay from $500 to nearly $1000 for that I think would be a little too much!
Here is just my 2 cents
On the day of the wedding...I just wanted to be the bride and I didn't want to have to "think" about anything. I didn't want to have to solve problems or be yelling for people to get into thier places for the photos.
What I did was ask our cousin to play the DOC role.
This meants that I gave her a list of the timeline as well as a list of everyone that was to be in every pic.
When we took all of our family pics...she would hollar "ok...mom and dad and sister..you are up".
She was also the person that people went to if there was an issue. If the candles lit out manzinta tree on fire (yes! this did happen)...she was the one that the recepteption hall told. If someone needed something or had a question..they went to her.
We are all different..so you may not mind being in that role on your day...but for me, it really made a huge difference. I didn't have to stress about things at all. Someone was "in charge"....yet I didn't have to acutally hire somone and still did everything DIY
Thanks, spraguebride. I didn't think about that part. I don't want to be the one bossing everyone around. Then the term bridezilla probably will be said. lol
So do you think I should pay for someone or get a friend or a family member to do it. I really don't want to pay someone $500 bucks or more to do it either. I actually think I did plan a lot of the stuff on my own and looking back I did do a lot.
I hate asking people for help though. It's puts pressure on them and they they will feel bad if they can't do it. Plus, what happens if they do it, will they miss the whole wedding because instead of seeing the wedding, they are now running around making sure everything gets done.
Let me try to figure out someone who could do it. A cousin would be great but don't really have many of those. Hmmmm...
We didn't have it in the budget so it was family/freind or nothing. I also didn't want to have to pay money
Ever situation is different...but for us she didn't miss anything because we only needed her before the wedding and after for the pics. She also helped in the morning.
She helped with the pics before the wedding and the pictures after. But that was it. I had already selevted people who were setting up and cleaning up. I arranged that myself. BUT she knew who everyone was so if something had fallen apart...they would have gone to her to get it fixed.
She was really kinda the one in charge of the time line and making sure that we were all on track. But I did all the arranging and time line stuff before on my own. She was just the one paying attention 'cause lord knows that on the day of...there was enough other things for me to worry about. You really do not want to have to watch your clock and timeline to make sure you are on time. Nice to know that someone will come and say "hey...10min...get moving" :-)
we also had a Dj and the DJ ran the party once we were at the reception. So once we got to the reception..she was off duty...unless something happened. But if you have a good caterer..then they handle the dinner stuff and your dj will handle the flow of the party and tellling people when it's time for toasts or cake cutting etc..
I think that if everything is all set up...there isn't much that has to be done on the day. Meaning: if you do your work ahead of time...you will have given everyone involved a timeline. So everyone knows where they have to be at what time.
Do you have a freind or family member who is naturally bossy. She was...so it worked. haha! It was her wedding gift to us...but I treated her as an attendant kinda nad gave her some gifts at the rehersal dinner because she really did have a role in our wedding.
Overall...I am SO happy that I didn't have to be in charge on my wedding day.
I got to have my hair done and chat and stress about how I was getting married. Let someone else handle the details
There are pros adn cons for hiring people and using family. There are always the conerns about what if things go wrong
But for us...it worked out perfectly and our wedding ran VERY smoothly
I have been to 2 wedding after our wedding...and both really lacked a good flow. It sounds kinda catty, but my hubby and I felt really proud with how well organized our day was. All the work and thought I put into the timeline really paid off.
Also...in theroy it would be a great job for the MOH
Only hard thing is they need to attend to you..and THAT needs to the their job that day.
. But there is NO reason why it cannot be a close person like a sister..sister in law...best freind..brother. It doesn't have to be a distant person becaue they don't have to miss any of the important wedding stuff.
Yeah, I'm hoping to get someone not in the wedding or a wedding guest. Maybe a friend of a friend or a distant relative. My MOH actually is missing the rehearsal and the lunch. She will actually be arriving the day of the wedding. Which concerns me but can't really do anything about it.
My sister is a bridesmaid already and she actually just started her own business so she is pretty busy right now.
I do have someone in mind but I told my bridemaids and maybe they will know of a friend who would do it.
Thanks, Malastep.
I actually just talked to someone who charges $250. I'm going to see if any of my bridesmaids can think of a friend who would like to do it. If not this person isn't that bad.
I'll need to see what she will and will not do.
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Ok, I thought about having one a few months ago but yesterday I read a few posts about having one. Now I'm on a fence. Let me know what you girls think.
My wedding is in 6 weeks, maybe it's too late to get one... so maybe I'm screwed anyway. November 28 2009
I have my caterer, my dj and my photographer (2).
My ceremony will be at a church and my reception will be at a hall about 15 min away.
I have purchased my supplies for my centerpieces. We are doing our own flowers. Hydrangea bouqets for the BM.
Invitations already set. Replys coming in. Booked a block of rooms for my guests already. Had a out of town insert in the invitation for those out of town.
All of my bridesmaids have ordered their dresses and grooms men have till the end of this month to get fitted for their tux.
I'm doing assigned seating. We have the favors we want, just haven't bought them yet. I will get them in a week or so.
Rehearsal and rehearsal luncheon is pretty much figured out.
Cake deposit in and I will need to call them in a few weeks with final details.
I have a wedding day timeline already... everything from what time I need to be at the salon, time to go to the church for pictures, what we are doing between the ceremony and reception. Also include a breakdown of everything going on during the reception.
In communication with the DJ about what songs we want and what song we don't want played.
My caterer and my reception site coordinator will meet next week to do figure out where all of the guest and food tables will go.
Attendent gifts are 50% purchased. We wll be purchasing the rest this week.
We are waiting til the new year for the honeymoon, so no planning needed on that part.
We have plans for after the reception, reception ends at 9:30 so going to a local restaurant and bar.
Bridal registry done.
GM wll double as ushers.
Will be having a slideshow, need to get that done.
I have the whole week planned out. Bachlor and Bachelorette parties, assembling of centerpieces and favors, Thanksgiving, rehearsal dinner and wedding.
I know what order I want my BM to go down the aisle but GH needs to tell me what order he want his to go in.
Music for the ceremony still having trouble chosing what song. Will be done tonight when FH gets home.
we have purchased our plane ticket. Oh, I guess I forgot to mention that I live in Seattle and my wedding will be in Philadelphia. All of my family and friends are in Philadelphia.
Recieving line will be done during the cocktail hour, at that time the slide show will be show in the background.
I know when people will eat, when first dances, father daughter and mother son dance will be and cake cutting and garter and bouqet tosses will be.
Getting my uncle and aunt to help bring non-english speaking guest to their seats.
I have 8 bm and 8 GM... I invited 170 guests. I thinking about giving each one of my BM a part of the wedding that they are in charge of.
Anyway, with all of that planned or completed. The things I'm concerned with is whether I will be able to tell all of my BM and GMs where to stand. How to stand. How to walk down the aisle. What to do while I'm taking pictures.