Post # 1
Newly engaged (a whole week now!) and FI and I have decided to have a very intimate cermeony at my moms house THIS Christmas….thats in like 14 weeks? 12 people including us, in front of the Christmas tree, probably a homemade dinner. My sisters BF will be officiating. Super intimate.
So I was thinking 1. having magazine vouge style/quality photos arent super important to me. I want to remember the day and have the pictures, but I also dont want to spend much on them, and dont need them to be amazeballs, bc FI and I are regular ole people, not models. 2. Having someone we dont know there in such a small and intimate setting might seem awkward. 3. Wearing my moms dress and shoes, venue at my parents house, and no caterer?! We are so not WIC people!
However, I do want amazing Christmas tree shots, with twinkling lights behind us and have a picture in my head of how amazing the wedding would look, and I would hate to have blurry, dark, bad pictures to remember it all by.
I feel like I’ll get 50/50 answers here. We are choosing to have our wedding intimate because we want to, not due to a cash issue. We are discussing a 2 week honeymoon over the holidays in Paris? London? both?
Bees, I would love to hear your opinions on the Christmas wedding, photographer, honeymoon, ceremony…all of it! Help a bee out!
Post # 2
Well it depends on how important it is to you! Having amazing and professional photos was REALLY important to me and we are actually doing something similar in terms of a small and intimate ceremony (30 people tops). I decided it was worth spending the money and have booked a pro! In the end you just need to prioritize and if its not something you feel like you will regret, then opt for a non pro or family friend?!
Post # 3
Personally, I would never have considered not having a professional photographer at our wedding regardless of size. But photos were top priority to me lol.
I think if you have a very specific outcome in mind, you might want to hire a professional.
Post # 4
MissKittyBoo: Based on this part of your post: However, I do want amazing Christmas tree shots, with twinkling lights behind us and have a picture in my head of how amazing the wedding would look, and I would hate to have blurry, dark, bad pictures to remember it all by.
I would say that you should look into hiring a pro. You will probably not get amazing twinkle light shots in front of a tree my an amature. I guess I personally don’t understand this thought people seem to have that you have to be models or all about yourself to have a professional wedding photographer? I know many many wedding photographers, myself included, that don’t treat every wedding like it’s a magazine shoot. 😉
Post # 5
- Wedding: February 2015 - Mount Hermon
MissKittyBoo: Good photos were so important to us, and I’m a bride on a small budget. I think we’re going to end up with almost 1/3 of our overall budget on photos. You say money is not an issue, so I vote go for it!
A good photographer will not be awkward. They are very used to what they do, and know how to make you feel comfortable. Look at all the elopments on here. Most of them have 4 people in attendance: the bride, the groom, the officiant, and the photographer.
I have never heard anyone regret paying a lot of money for a photgrapher, but plenty of peiople regret NOT doing it. Good photos are, in my opinion, priceless.
You want pictures with lights BEHIND you. A pro photographer will be able to do that. A family member with a point-and-shoot will not.
If you’re still worried, you could go with their smallest package. Or just ceremony/family pictures, and then they leave. Then you’re alone with your family for the celebration, but you still have gorgeous pictures.
Post # 6
I had a teeny intimate wedding and hired a pro photographer because of something I read here. I’ll try and paraphrase. Basically the jist was that without lots of guests, it will just be the two of you to remember the moment you were married. With a good photographer, it’ll jog your memory and will be something you can show any kids you two have.
Also my parents had a teeny wedding without a pro photographer, and I remember as a child, being disappointed they didn’t have pics for me to look at.
I think you should meet with a few, find one you like, and have them go at it if you can afford it. A good one won’t make you feel awkward during your ceremony or the dinner after, but will document lovely memories being made.
Post # 7
Hire a pro! Regardless of the wedding size. You won’t regret it but you might very well regret it if you dont
Post # 8
- Wedding: February 2015 - Mount Hermon
MissKittyBoo: Also, a photographer will not make your photos magazine style. They’ll make them YOUR style. Your personality will shine, and you don’t have to be a model at all. They’ll make you look beautiful. My FI is SO camera-shy and was nervous about phots, but he had a blast doing our engagement photos. He was so comfortable with our photographer.
Post # 9
I never questioned having a professional photographer, but I did NOT want to spend a ton of money on photos I figured I’d look at a few times, then maybe see them again on anniversaries, etc, once a year, if ever. BUT, I’m SO GLAD now I found a wonderful photographer (who luckily was rather reasonable on the whole), because the day was SUCH blur, and now I have these beautiful memories.
So in short answer… yes, I really think you should find someone to capture this day for you!
Post # 10
First, fancy photography is super popular these days. It seems to be the top priority for many brides and that’s just fine. But don’t let that make you feel bad about not making photography a priority. For me, the experience being surrounded by my loved ones was more important than photography and I’m glad I stuck with my instincts and didn’t spend thousands of dollars on photography that I didn’t need.
My biggest concern about not hiring some sort of photographer would be that, if it’s only 12 of you, do you really want one of your close friends/family having to worry about taking pictures when they should be paying attention to your ceremony or enjoying their dinner? That would be my bigger concern, rather than not getting magazine quality photos.
What I would recommend is trying to find a student or a new photographer who is building their portfolio. That way you have a designated person to take pictures and your friends and family don’t have to worry about it, but it shouldn’t break the bank. And while you shouldn’t expect every shot to be amazing, I’m sure you’ll get shots to help remind you of the day and will likely get some that are really pretty and what you’re looking for. I used a pro photog who was fairly young and new to the field and I got her for all day with rights to print for $875. She was great and I love my photos! But it took a lot of searching to find her!
Post # 11
MissKittyBoo: Yay! A date twin! 97 days!
We’re also getting married on Christmas this year at my FI’s parents house with just my parents, his parents and his siblings. We’re doing a surprise wedding, so we just have the family pastor showing up at the door and surprise we’re getting married! They don’t even know we’re engaged, so it’s going to be a total surprise. Obviously, because it’s a surprise, we’re not going to have a photographer. Also, his family doesn’t do Christmas Trees (they are VERY Christian and Christmas trees are a pagan symbol, etc.). I was thinking of getting photos done in our outfits later on after the wedding so that we could at least have some with a tree, we will have one at our house. So you could always do post wedding photos in the same outfits if you don’t feel comfortable having a photographer at Christmas.
Post # 12
We are planning on having an intimate wedding as well. Mostly because my family and friends live all over the south and his family lives around us up north, but also because we are the types that don’t really like to be in the spotlight and would feel uncomfortable with a huge ceremony.
That being said, professional pictures are important to me. A lot of my family will not be able to attend a wedding so far away, so it will be nice to have beautiful pictures to share with them. For selfish reasons too! Its one day a lot of people do hire professional photographers and I love looking at how gorgeous the shots are and it would be nice to just have some great pictures to look back on over the years.
Post # 13
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
YES! In the grand scheme of things, having nice photos of your wedding will be something that you treasure far more than the $2,000 or whatever it costs to get them!!
Post # 14
Wow Bees, thanks for the prompt responses!
Looks like its unanimous on the pro photos, and I agree that the lights behind us might be an issue and are the real reason that I brought the photog issue here on the boards. We have a picture from a family memeber a few years ago at Christmas sitting in front of the lit tree with our cat and it just turned out so washed out and dark and blurry. Super sad bc it would have been a really nice picture otherwise.
Does anyone have any thoughts on wedding dinner/ceremony/ect with such a small wedding? Im not sure what to do to fill the time!
Post # 15
MissKittyBoo: Pictures are very important to me, it was one of the most important days of my life so I wanted to have quality photos. <br />I had a big wedding, but even if I didn’t, I would have hired a pro photographer. Our photographer was very inexpensive (considering the area I live in) so I had no problem paying what we did for them