- 5 years ago
I am a little heartbroken now and haven’t spoken to SO for 2 days. I am usually the person who says sorry first and maybe try to be very nice and give in, but I am not too sure what people would normally do in this kind of situation.
After a very nice day with my SO, we did the thing couples do then I came back home because I had to go to work early. Usually we cuddle and sleep together, and it was first time I just came back home. Anyway, while we’re cudding, I kinda found out he thought about some proposal ideas very roughly and knows what kind of ring I would like. In fact it was in a while because both of us were pretty sensitive and stressed out about our marriage and future talk(which he needs more time to think), and SO decided that we should stop making love because I would feel vernarable and upset over it guilt tripping him even if I didn’t meant it… and few months have passed.
Next day he said he would stop by, but timing wasn’t so good as I missed his call doing something else and it was already pretty late. We spoke a little on the phone, and I just asked what changed in him to start things again. I didn’t mean to push him about marraige or anything just because we made luv(he says this… cough), I just was curious why…
Anyway, I think he had some major issues at work, and even before I started talking about our thing, I knew he wasn’t in a good mood and I had to hang up pretty soon and let him go to sleep… Obviously I wanted to hear something positive about his motivation (if there is any).
He got angry at me that I am push, and sort of got into a silly argument. He said I was driving him crazy and he wanted to break things off. I was just shocked. I explained I didn’t mean anything I just wanted us to be on the same page, but he was said things got complicated and regret everything… I knew that he was just jumping into conclusions and jumping up and down dancing around by himself not knowing my intensions are as usuall when he can’t hear anything anymore. But it was just too mean to bring up the B word. Tried to clamn him down, but I just hung up the phone wishing him good luck for his work.
Now yesterday he emailed me saying he wasn’t upset at me(?!) he is just really stressed out with work and needs some space. He wanted to know if I wasn’t upset and wanted to talk soon. with love… I understand he’s stressed out. I know it’s been pretty tense few weeks with all future talk and all, my parents visiting and also pressured him a little…
Still really dislike what happened and how he treated me. Usually I would never pass 2 days without replying to him like this, but I just don’t know what to say to him now… I was writing an email to get the message crossed, but it’s too lengthy and just lost motivation. I feel I should just be quiet for a while until all steam is off.
Just got another email that he wanted to talk/meet me tomorrow if that is okay with me. I don’t know… I feel like I need to let him know it’s not acceptable by not communicating for a while. It’s pretty silly but I want to hear everyone’s opinion.