Post # 1
FH and I have been talking about our honeymoon a lot lately. At first, we weren’t really going to take one and just spend the night in the bed and breakfast where we’re getting married, but the more we thought about it, the more we really wanted to actually get a way for a while. We’ve only been on two vacations in the 4 years we’ve been together, and those were two nights away a piece.
The only problem is we’re both going to be recent college graduates and in the market for new jobs. FH is almost promised a job already and they already know that he’s getting married and will need some time off. The company says that they will have no problem working with him at all, as they hired on a new guy who was also going to need time off for his wedding. The problem is me. I’m a pharmacy tech (well, will be after I take the certification test) and the job market for that in my area is already pretty shitty anyway so I feel like if I tell them I will need that time off, they will pass me up for someone that isn’t getting married and won’t need a week off.
I finish school in November and we’re getting married in March. I’ve been unemployed for the better part of the year already, and we’re getting by on FH’s salary (we pay the bills and we have some money left over), so it’s not like we’re barely making it. But, at the same time, I’m also worried that because the job market is so bad, that I may not be able to find anything after the wedding either.
So, advice bees?
Post # 3
@SouthernGirl: March is a long ways away! I’d look for work now. Definitely don’t volunteer that you need a week off until after you’ve accepted a job offer.
Post # 4
I think I would go crazy just sitting around from November to March. I don’t think there’s any harm in look for a job, maybe even part time until the wedding. I would think most places would be willing to give you a week off, but if not move on. If you don’t find one right away then oh well!
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@SouthernGirl: Keep looking. It took me almost 3 years after graduating to find a real full time job in my career field. All during that time I was applying and interviewing. If you get a job before you wedding, most of the time it’s not a big deal to take some time off for a honeymoon. Just make sure to let them know the dates you need to take off when you accpt the job. It may not even end up being an issue if you can’t get a job before March but in this job market, I wouldn’t take any time off because the more time you are unemployed, the harder it usually is to get a job.
Post # 6
I would definitely start looking now. We moved here at the end of Nov 2012 and and my FI JUST now got a position starting in 3 weeks.
And, I would definitely not hold back that you’re taking off. What’s the difference between (a) going on a job interview, telling them you need a week off for an already-planned vacation and not getting the job and (b) not job hunting and not getting a job?
I would much rather feel safe knowing I’m going to get the week off. Most jobs won’t hold a week vacation that’s already planned against you. What happens if you took a job and when you wanted to take off, they said no? That happened to a friend of mine.
Post # 7
I took a new job knowing that I had my wedding the following year. It was a non-issue. Most employers will be fine, and understand that it’s (hopefully!) a once in a lifetime event that you can’t change now it’s booked.
Also, look at it this way. Do you really want to work for an employer who arbitrarily won’t hire you in November for an ongoing position because you have a one week vacation pre-booked four months away? Trust me, you probably dodged a bullet!
Post # 8
That’s true. I guess I’m just worried enough about not finding a job to begin with that I’m worried about not being able to get time off too. Pharmacy techs are a dime a dozen around here (I wish I’d known that before getting into the program) and one girl that finished the program I’m in is still jobless 2 years after finishing. I know that can happen to anyone and I know that the demand for pharmacy techs has dropped significantly in the last few years.
The company that FH currently works for is really bad about not giving people time off. He requested one day a full year in advance and they denied it.
I can’t currently look for a job in my field as I’m not certified yet. I can’t take the certification until November.
Post # 9
Just tell them you need honeymoon time off during your negotiation/job offer. At that point, they want you, and will probably work with you–although it probably would be unpaid
Post # 10
I would start job hunting as soon as you are certified and play open cards with them about needing time off for the wedding and honeymoon.
I just recently started a new job and from the beginning I was open with them about needing the time off. They are totally fine with it and at least i have peace of mind knowing that I will have a job when I come back from the honeymoon.
Post # 11
I would be honest about it during the job interview. I’m in the same boat as you. Finishing in late August 2014 and getting married in January, but my fiancé has classes until late April so our honeymoon would be in May. There’s no way I can spend so much time without a job … so I’ll have to be honest right from the start, because as an employer I would hate a candidate to take the job, then just tell me they need to be off for wedding, honeymoon or pregnancy (they knew in the interview and didn’t tell me). I think it might bring trust issues right from the start and I wouldn’t like it in a new working environment.
I believe many employers will be fine with it, the demand is not unreasonable. 🙂
Post # 12
Get in that job market immediately, young lady. Companies will understand why you are taking the time off. A honeymoon is a once in a lifetime event, and going on a honeymoon doesn’t show some lack of responsibility or deficit in e workplace skills or whatever. Particularly if the job market is shit, you need to get your feet in it ASAP.
Post # 13
Just apply to as many jobs as possible and you will find one. If you are good at what you do (and I’m sure you are) finding a job won’t be an issue. You will be fine! Get a job before you worry about time off. If they want you in the position it won’t be a problem