Post # 1
I have a pretty unique Spanish name: Chacon. My FH’s last name? Brown. Ugh. I want to take his name, I really do, but I HATE the way it sounds. Plus, I had two elementary school teachers named Mrs. Brown and I think of them every time I think of myself as “Mrs. Brown”. We’ve rejected all the other possibilies so it comes down to being
Post # 3
I think if you feel that way about it you should just hyphenate. The names look good together and it’s not like it makes it unreasonably long.
Post # 4
I am in the same boat as you… my married name will be Boone
Not real excited about that one….I also have a unique spanish last name. Honestly, I think Im just goint to keep my same last name legally and socially go by Mrs. Boone…
Post # 5
Hyphenate if it bothers you. I think hyphenated names sound good when they’re two syllable-one syllable.
I too am going to a “top three” kind of last name, and it kind of bugs me.
Post # 6
@mandb122: That’s true. It’s only 3 syllables. =]
@HoneyBear: I thought about that, too, but FH was not happy at all.
Post # 7
If you feel strongly about it hyphenate…im on the same boat…I am brazilian and have a very brazilian last name…so I am very attached to it so I am hyphenating…Teddy has no problem with that and even thinking about hyphenating his name with my last too
Post # 8
I like the hyphenated name!
Post # 9
I think hyphenating it is fine if that makes you feel better about it. I took my husbands name and did not hyphenate but I am planning to name one of our children (we plan to have 2) my maiden name (it works well for boy or girl).
Post # 10
I am in the same boat, my problem is my fathers only request from me as the only one getting married is to keep his last name and to carry it on….
I shall be Mrs. Nazli-Cheng
Post # 11
I’m hyphenating. I have a really short, unique Norweigian name, and FI has a generic, common last name. I wanted to have my name relate to our future children’s, but also wanted to have my own uniqueness represented.
Post # 12
I am having two middle name! I will be Ally (current middle name) (current last name) (Husband’s last name).
So basically i will be going by Ally (Husband’s last name) but i still get to hold on to my current last name- which is unique and i love it so i can’t bear to not have it in there somewhere. It’s still a part of who i am!
Post # 13
My personal taste leans against hyphenated names. I don’t think they sound or look well aesthetically, I wonder what will be done for the children, and I feel that it defeats the purpose of changing your name at all (if one assumes that purpose is to unify a family under one name). I would either take his name completely or not at all. You are facing a fairly difficult and very personal decision, though, and unfortunately it isn’t something that we on Weddingbee will be able to help you with – you’ll have to decide for yourself what it is you really want. Good luck.
Post # 14
I grew up with so many different types of family names (Examples: man’s last name, woman’s last name, children have man’s wife keeps her own, hypenated families, parents kept own – children hypenated, mixed last names and even families that gave their kids generic last names so they could pick themselves!) so I think you should do what makes YOU feel best and tell everyone else to go away.
At the end of the day, women usually pick their husband’s last name because its tradition and most women have been told to do it since they were a little girl. In reality, there is no right or wrong way and trust me – your kids will figure it out in the end!
Post # 15
Your new last name isn’t bad at all, but I understand your reasoning for not being a huge fan of it. I gotta say though, both names with the hyphen sound really great. It doesn’t even come off as very long (whereas most hyphenated names usually do) >.<
Post # 16
My Mom took a hyphenated name when her and my Dad were divorced and she was getting married to my little sisters Dad. I think it was a bit of a pain, some things were still in her old name and some people referred to her as one or the other and it was just confusing. Not saying it’s that way for everybody, do what you and your FI are comfortable with.
My FI told me once before we were engaged that he would never marry somebody who wouldn’t take his last name. I like his last name it’s very simple but not as common as some. I just can’t wait to finally not spell my last name!