Should I include dress code in welcome letter?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should I include dress code in my welcome bag letters?
    Yes, people will appreciate the clarification : (3 votes)
    5 %
    No, too late, people already know what they are going to wear : (58 votes)
    91 %
    Yes, but change it to "suggested dress is semi-formal" : (3 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    1349 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Lily_of_the_valley:  I feel like at that point, it might be too late.  I’d try to get the word out before everyone packs their bags!!  I actually don’t think it would hurt to have that in there, it just might be too late.

    Post # 3
    Member
    2529 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

    If it’s semi formal, and they already packed business casual, would you expect them to go buy something else? If not (and I hope not), then you need to get the info out there sooner. Many people will tell you that you cannot dictate dress, and I mostly agree, but if it is that important to you, find a subtle way to pass the info on. Maybe do an email with tips/reminders/things to see before the trip?

    Post # 6
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    42538 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Lily_of_the_valley:  I think it’s a bit late. By the time they read the info in the welcome bag, they will already have decided what they are going to wear and may have little options available to purchase anything else.

    Post # 8
    Member
    453 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    I’m sorry but if I packed already and got a welcome bag at the hotel that I needed to wear something different, I would still wear what I brought. I’m not going to go out shopping at last minute looking for something to wear let alone different shoes and accessories.  You should have had semi formal on the invitations. It’s too late and I’d be pissed if the first I’m hearing of semi formal is in the welcome bag.  You need to send even a postcard to all prior to them leaving to let them know. 

    • This reply was modified 2 years, 8 months ago by  sharksgrl99.
    • This reply was modified 2 years, 8 months ago by  sharksgrl99.
    Post # 9
    Member
    2455 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Lily_of_the_valley:  My question is should I include the wedding day dress code in our welcome letter? NO Does that seem too pushy? YES<br /><br />

    They’re adults, I think they know better than to wear a swimsuit to a wedding. If someone shows up in flip flops it won’t ruin your day. There is a good chance people will wear flip flops if the ceremony is on the beach.

     

    Post # 11
    Member
    453 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    No need in the welcome letter. They already know what they are wearing I’m sure. 

    Post # 12
    Member
    889 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    Do you have another way of getting a message out to everyone before you go (text,  e-mail, postcard etc) with a little note saying something like ‘looking forward to you sharing our big day,  just a reminder blah blah blah, see you there’?

    • This reply was modified 2 years, 8 months ago by  SellyJo.
    Post # 13
    Member
    2114 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I always appreciate seeing it actually included on the invite or in the invite envelope…which might be tacky, idk, but it’s so helpful! I pretty much just assume every wedding is semi-formal.

    Post # 14
    Member
    2913 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

    By the time they see the welcome letter, it’s too late. If it is on the website, they have fair warning. And keep spreading it by word of mouth.

    Post # 15
    Member
    951 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

     

    Lily_of_the_valley:  I like the idea of an email that a PP had.  With travel trips, suggested things to see once they’re there, the dress code (since it seems important to you) and a “can’t wait to spend our day with you” type message.  The letter in the welcome bag is definitely too late, people have already packed for your wedding.  Asking them to potentially go out and buy something else after they’ve spent a large amount of money just to attend seems wrong.

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