Should I include kids on my wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@weddingspy27:  Do you mean as guests, or as flower girl/ring bearer?

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I think it would definitely be way special for them.  This wedding is important for them too, as their family will be bigger as a result of it.  I definitely wouldn’t give them some sort of role, or at least a part in the ceremony.  

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

Are they your kids or someone else’s kids? 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

@weddingspy27:  That’s a personal decision that you’d have to make. Do you want them to be a part of your wedding? Are they special to you?

 

As a side note: I photograph many, many weddings a year. I hate flower girls and ring bearers. But that’s my personal opinion….

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

@weddingspy27:  As a photographer….most of the time, they don’t cooperate for pictures.  This irritates the bride. The last thing I want to see or deal with is an irritated bride that is already stressed out about other things. This is a personal opinion. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I have one of each in my wedding (they’re my godkids).  I’ve had more fun picking out their outfits than picking out my own! My flowergirl is 5 and she is SO EXCITED.  It’s a great age for that.  Her brother is only 2 1/2 so I’m not holding any great expectations.  Basically he’s either going to run down the aisle, or get dragged down by his sister.  Whatever happens, happens!

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I think you should only involve kids if you have some sort of a relationship with them, don’t have them just for the sake of having a flower girl/ring bearer. Meaning, don’t ask your second cousin’s daughter to be the flower girl if you’ve only met her twice. Your niece whom you adore- that’s a different story.

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