Post # 1
I work in an office of 8 men and myself. I was planning on inviting 6 of them to the wedding, but I’m having trouble deciding if I should invite the other 2 (Tony and Ben) to avoid hurt feelings and awkward situations. The problem is that Tony’s cube is right beside mine, we work very close together on things, he is getting married in May and mine is in August, he’s inviting me to his wedding, and we talk about weddings often…which I know I shouldn’t talk about it to people who are not invited. Tony started working in my office around the time that I made my guest list and I wasn’t close to him then like I am now so I want to add him. We are already WAY over our capacity for the reception venue. I know I could put him on a B list, but I don’t think I will have an option of a B list because of the amount we have. I wasn’t going to invite the other guy, Ben, because he flirts with me often and my fiance doesn’t really like him. Ben is nice to my fiance though and has invited us to parties at his house. I feel like if I don’t invite both of them then it would be better than not inviting only one. I would really like to invite both though. My fiance says there are lots of people in his office who he’d like to invite too but can’t because of our limitations.
Post # 3
Oo, that’s tough. I guess I kind of think that if you’re already inviting some people in your office, and you’re planning on being there with those people for a while, you should probably invite them. Otherwise, things might be pretty tense and awkward. I know it’s tough to make guest list decisions!
Post # 4
You work with 8 ppl. You are inviting 6 of them. I think you need to invite the other two.
Post # 5
I really think that you should invite all of them, especially since you have talked about the wedding with one of them. Just because you invite people doesn’t mean they are going to come, so you might not end up overbooked.
Post # 6
FI is in a similar situation.
We invited his boss, and 4 out of the 8 people he works with. We rationalized it by inviting the people who had been there the longest, anyone he hung out with outside of work.
We never dreamed they’d come, but I sent out STDs yesterday, and today FI tells me they’ve all asked for the time off.
Post # 7
I’m in the same dilemma! There’s some co-workers I would invite and other I would prefer they didnt’ make an appearance, but I feel like I can’t invite some and leave out others so I’ll be extending invites to ALL of them, unfortunately. Hopefully, they’ll decline and it’ll ease my mind!! hehe
Post # 8
I agree; if you are inviting 6 and you are already over your limit, you have to invite the remaining 2, which in the grand scheme isn’t so bad – plus, one is inviting you to his so to keep the peace, you have to reciprocate.
What’s done is done, but I would have had the entire office as possible B list, so that if you couldn’t fit them in, no one would be offended…
We have the opposite trouble; no issues and FI’s boss and wife now want to include their two kids (one adult, one 4; we don’t want any young kids) and because they’ve hounded us so much, we’ve always counted them in the planning numbers and now they may or may not go. I don’t understand why folks don’t understand etiqutte, what it means to have reserved seats, and that you can’t waiver regarding such matters when you tell someone you are going. Had I had the choice, I never would have invited them at all
Post # 9
I think you should invite the other two. Hopefully they won’t be able to come:)
Post # 10
I’d invite them. There’s no way the 2 won’t find out. It’s too small of an environment to risk having an awkward or tense convo about why they were the only ones not invited. And the one that flirst most likely won’t do that at the wedding (lol) and I’m sure he won’t do it thereafter either. I mean hello- he watched you be in love and married your husband, there’s no reason to flirt buddy!
Post # 11
I agree with Tanya123, you should most definitely invite everyone you work with, it’s only two more people. Besides not everyone you invited will come and who’s to say that the two B-listers will come?
Post # 12
Let me clarify one thing. There are 2,000 people who work at my company and I work in an office of 8 people…so I AM excluding others, not just the two that I asked about.