Should I invite family? :/

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 2
8 posts
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Glenskirlie Castle

It’s a tough one that only you can answer, me personally (and I’m in now way saying that this is the right solution for you) I lost contact with my grandparents on my dad’s side when my parents separated but I will be sending them an invitation I see it as I have done the right thing, for me, and if they don’t come then it’s their loss

Post # 3
4878 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I agree, it’s your decision alone.  But, will it be worth the pain of being around your abusers just to get some pictures which may, in & of themselves be triggering for you?

It’s horribly unfair, but some of us are born into truly awful families.  I was.  Both of my parents were deceased by the time I married dh, so I was spared the decision you have to make.  I longed for a loving & supportive family with me, but reality is reality.

I would elope before I would have my tormentors at my wedding.  Not only the pain of being around them would get to me, but my anxiety levels would be off the charts.

Post # 4
3016 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

I’m a little confused. Your parents and your FI’s dad are not coming, so who are the people you want pictures with? Sounds like your grandma is ok but would be pissed if you didn’t invite your brother? 

If it’s your grandmother you want there, maybe it’s worth having your jerky brother there. Standing around not speaking to you isn’t THAT bad– if that’s all he would do. But if he’s the type to get stupid drunk and act horribly… then I would not invite him. Only you can decide.

Honestly, it sounds lik your friends, who love you and don’t abuse you, are your family. Take your Family Photos with them and call it a day!

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