(Closed) Should I Invite Her? Semi-Rant..

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Should I Invite Her?
    Don't bother : (31 votes)
    94 %
    Yes, you should : (2 votes)
    6 %
    You should, but only if you speak to her between now and the wedding : (0 votes)
    Other (please comment) : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    2419 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    At this point, I wouldn’t bother to invite her. If you haven’t heard from her in six months and the last time you saw her it was awkward, I wouldn’t invite her. I wouldn’t want people at my wedding who would make me feel awkward on one of the most important days of my life.

    Post # 4
    1068 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    No. Only invite people you truly love and you want there to spend your day celebrating your love. Never invite someone out of obligation.

    Post # 5
    77 posts
    Worker bee

    I had a somewhat similar situation with a previous roommate. We lived together for a year, she was always late in paying me for all the bills, was a complete slob, etc. We haven’t kept in touch and I’m not planning on inviting her. If she asks I’m just going to tell her that we are keeping our guests to family and really close friends. I would suggest doing the same, especially since this girl has been so rude to you. 

    Post # 6
    277 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    The best advice I’ve gotten so far about which friends belong on the guest list is this:

    If someone hasn’t been an important part of your lives together as a couple, then they don’t really need to have a place at your wedding. 

    It doesn’t sound like Jane fits this, so I wouldn’t be inviting her.

    Post # 7
    8884 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @Tangled:  I agree with this.

    If it felt awkward at her wedding, it was probably b/c you knew the friendship was over. I think it’s time to move on.

    Post # 8
    862 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    There is not a snowball’s chance in Hell that this person would be getting invited to my wedding if I were you.  Yes, you were close once, but look at how she treated you even when you were so close!  She disrespected you and your property.  Even now, she still does not have the courtesy to thank you for your wedding present!  You honestly are better off without someone like this in your life and you yourself said that you don’t expect to keep in touch with her after the wedding, so why have her at your wedding if she isn’t part of your life anymore?  Another question you need to ask yourself is how would you feel if you invited her and she actually showed up?  Would you be happy to see her or would you feel uncomfortable the same way you did at her wedding?  A good piece of advice I received when planning my wedding was “never invite anyone you don’t honestly want to see at your wedding.”  I put that advice to good use when my father was pressuring me to invite an ex-friend to my wedding.  Long story short, even though I had been friends with that girl since high school (and she was originally going to be my maid of honor), I didn’t invite her because I knew I didn’t want to see her at my wedding and didn’t want to speak to her ever again period.  I’ve never regretted the choice!  I just don’t need someone in my life (especially the big moments) who treats me as badly as she used to. 

    Post # 10
    1416 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    @mrs_brownie:  Do you want her as a friend? Really truly care if she’s in your life at all? I would use this as the opportunity to finally dump her, frankly, don’t invite her, she’ll hate you for it and not speak with you again and then you don’t have to put up with her bullshit anymore.


    I am an invite nazi though. Strictly only people I am CURRENT friends with (not once upon a time) and that I love and WANT there. I feel that people should know when they’re actually friends with somebody and not be hurt if they don’t get an invite. I would never expect an invite from somebody I’ve hardly spoken to in years. Why should they expect the same. 

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