Post # 1
At the moment, I have a non-existent relationship with his family. Everything started out great! We’ve spent holidays together, and visit when we can. In the past month or so, his family has taken a turn for the worst. We had a disagreement due to his family moving. Supposedly, I’m arrogant and didn’t want to help them prepare for anything. Blah blah blah. Needless to say, it ended up with his mom trying to keep a package from me that needed for work. She’s bat sh!t crazy and mean for no reason, even to her own kids. We’ve “apologized” to each other, but I still don’t trust them. His sisters joined in, like an immature high school clique, with just petty passive aggressive bs.
Now to the point, I’m graduating this December (around proposal) time, and I don’t know if I should extend another olive branch and invite any of them! I could care less, but I would think it might help to resolve some of the tension, if I at least invite them… Any advice?
Post # 3
I would be the bigger person and invite them. It’s not as if you’ll be sitting with them – you’ll be graduating (congrats!). If you don’t invite them it could definitely cause more problems later. For instance, I didn’t walk at my graduation, so I obviously didn’t invite my SO’s parents. Apparently they though I just didn’t invite them and were pissed about it! When my SO found out he tried to smooth things over, but by then they had worked themselves up over something that was a non-issue because I didn’t even attend my own graduation! :/ Just invite them; it will cause less drama in the long run, even if they don’t attend.
Post # 4
I would invite them. That way they know you care and even if they say no your SO will be happy you asked. My FMIL don’t always get along but she and my FFIL are coming to my graduation in the spring. They’re happy I asked and saw them as my family.
Post # 5
I invited my man’s mom & her hubby, but not siblings. Part of the reason was we were moving away to CA a month later together & I wanted our families to be able to meet each other & feel better about the whole thing. Worked out great, his mom was happy to be thought of as family- esp. since he gave me a promise ring at the botanical gardens afterwards with his mom, my mom, & my grandma all watching. I seriously think that may be the only reason they love him so much! =)
Post # 6
I say wait and see how things go. You don’t need to send out grad invites until much much closer to the event so I wouldn’t even worry about it for the next few months.
Post # 7
@theshannondee: I wish I could wait to send out invites, but most of my family lives out of state. They’ll need a couple months to make travel arrangements.
I think I’ll go ahead and just send his parents an invite once I get them printed out. That way it won’t backfire and at least I can say I tried!
Thanks y’all 🙂