(Closed) Should I invite my brother to my wedding?-long

posted 6 years ago in Family
  • poll: Should I invite my brother to my wedding?
    No-too much drama : (4 votes)
    14 %
    Send him an invite, but be clear that only HE and his children are invited : (19 votes)
    68 %
    Depends on how things go from here...wait a few months before deciding : (4 votes)
    14 %
    Absolutely-he is your brother! : (1 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    2651 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    I vote send him and his children an invite but make it perfectly clear that olny he and the kids are allowed.  bugetary issues and what not 😉


    Post # 4
    4478 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    aw, geeze.  I’m sorry.  What insanity!  


    I think your idea of invite to him and his kids only is a good idea.  Listed by name.  Normally in these sorts of situations I say don’t judge, etc., but this woman really sounds like trouble, and this is a case where I don’t blame you for not wanting her at your wedding.

    Post # 5
    4371 posts
    Honey bee

    Agree with imalittlebirdie. Invite your brother and his kids only and not the gf. 

    Post # 7
    899 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I would invite him, and the kids, but make doubly sure that he knows the invitation doesn’t extend to the gf. After that it is up to him to make the right choices.

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    Post # 8
    10 posts

    Invite your brother and his kids only and not the gf.

    Post # 9
    1638 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @Max04092010: *BIG HUGS*

    I’m sorry you are dealing with this hun!!!

    However, I’m going to take a less optimistic route. I can see this ending in two ways

    1-He will still bring his psycho gf to your wedding uninvited which at that point you either have someone escort her out or just have someone babysit her and keep her away from you during the day

    2-He will throw a fit because she is not invited and will do the whole “if she can’t come neither will I” route emotionally blackmailing you to either cave in to him or have him not come at all.

    I will say this. YOU ARE THE BRIDE. This woman is psycho and has shown she will do whatever to get her way. She has no emotional commitment to even behave at the wedding.

    I vote for do not invite them. I know it’s mean, but since you will be spending so much time and money for the wedding I would not want someone there who could possibly ruin it. However that is cold because it would hurt your brother.

    It helps that she has kids and plane tickets for the entire family will be very expensive. But still she might still try to tag along. I

    It would be great for your nephews and niece to come but would your brother allow them to come without the gf’s kids too?

    I hope it all works out!!

    Post # 11
    1638 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @Max04092010: You’re welcome and I’m glad your SIL is being so kind to keep the children in your lives!

    Post # 12
    4371 posts
    Honey bee

    I think it would be a nice gesture to invite your SIL, since you still have good relations with her and she is the mother of your niece and nephew whom you want to attend. Sorry you have to deal with such craziness. Btw, your sister sounds like an awesome person 😉

    Post # 13
    1763 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I would save the date addressed to your brother and kids and at some point actually talk to him and see if he plans to come. I doubt the two of them would pick up on her not being invited and you might need to come straight out and say it (nicely) when you talk to him.

    I am glad you would feel comfortable inviting your SIL. I think that might be the only way your nephew would be able to come:(

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