Post # 1
Here’s the situation with my cousin:
She’s got 2 daughters (ages 9 and 2) and is currently dating the father of Daughter #2. This has been an on again/off again relationship but for the last 6 months or so, they’ve been on again. So my original plan was to invite all 4 of them (Cousin, Baby Daddy and 2 kids) to my wedding.
I found out (thank you, Facebook) that Baby Daddy has another daughter (age 5) from another relationship. Over Christmas, Cousin posted tons of professional “family” pictures that included all THREE girls.
Would you guys invite the 3rd girl to your wedding? She’s not related to me and I’ve never met her. I realize she’s 5 and won’t take up much space, but our guestlist is right on the brink so I’d have to cut a friend to clear a chair for her.
Post # 3
If your wedding falls on a day that they have her I say definitely YES you can not leave a kid out of a family. She is part of their family.
Post # 4
Personally? I wouldn’t. If you had the room I would say go ahead but having to cut a friend for someone you didn’t even know existed? I wouldn’t do it.
Post # 5
I would invite her; she’s 5 years old… check with your venue, but kids are often counted differently.
Since your cousin is making an effort to include her; then you’ll come come across as more gracious and accepting if you do too.
Post # 6
If she lives with the cousin and baby-daddy, I think you have to. I would so hate to be that girl if you didn’t.
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I would invite the child if she lives with her Dad. If she doesn’t, then she’s not really part of the household and you do not need to invite her.
Post # 8
Thank you guys! You make good points. My cousin’s boyfriend and other daughter live seperately from my cousin and her 2 girls. I’m leaning toward not inviting the 3rd girl, but if they called to ask if she can come, I’d consider it. I mean, if it weren’t for FB, I wouldn’t even know she existed. I can always play the ignorance card.
Post # 9
Have you sent out invites to them yet. I was in a similar situation, though I had room to spare and he had his kid half the time. I just put my cousin and her boyfriends name and “family” on the invite. In my case the mother had him that weekend.
Chances are they wouldn’t bring her, especially since the mother has her most of the time and you can’t get blamed for not “inviting” her. However, you not knowing about her “technically” could probably get you a pass.