Should I invite my estranged father to my wedding? *UPDATE*

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Soontobe_MrsT:  

 

 

Have a little meme present. your dad is an absolute tool, and you behaved with the patience of a saint. Let him stew in his own selfish juices. Don’t give him access to your emotions anymore, since he has no consideration for your feelings.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@Soontobe_MrsT:  I would send one last message saying “I love you enough to want you to be at my wedding.  If you choose not to be there I will miss you but I will understand your decision.  I love you.  Me.”  That way the ball is in his court so he can never say that you didn’t want him there.

Post # 6
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491 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@Soontobe_MrsT:  I’m sorry 🙁 I remember replying to your original post and I was hoping everything worked our positively for you. It definitely sounds like you’re better off without him.

Post # 7
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1398 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I am so sorry…

i wish you all the happiness!!! Have fun at your wedding!

Post # 9
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Newbee

I read your other thread. I’m so sorry that you are in this position. My father has caused a lot of pain in my family. He’s still part of my life, mostly because my mother chose to forgive him and is still with him. If they didn’t live together, sometimes I think I would stop contacting him. I was engaged several years ago to a different man and at the time, I was definitely not planning on letting him walk me down the aisle. I don’t know about now.

Right now I struggle with whethe  I should work at our relationship or let him work at it. The man is 63 years old, he’s not getting any younger, opportunities are passing… Shouldn’t I wait and let him be the bigger person?

However, while I think that in one moment….I’ve had 3 friends who lost a parent in the past year. 1 was estranged from her father and she’s having a serious tough time getting through it.

I think you did well by not accepting his money and extending the invitation. 

I think I probably would have just accepted him coming to the ceremony without any additional comment. It was something and what he was comfortable with.

It might be good to leave that open to him still. I send you hugs, I feel your pain and I wish you a happy wedding day.

 

 

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