Post # 1
I just dont know is it appropriate to invite my FI child’s mom to our wedding because my future step som is 14 years old , so it’s not like he is a toddler that needs to be cared for at the wedding. The reason why im contemplating this is b/c me and his mom are “codial” but she really doesnt talk to me or really acknowlegdes me when everyone is around ( ex : kid b’day party). We will speak “hi and bye”, but nothing other than that. I really would like to get to know her and have a talking relationship but i dont think that something she is ready for right now. Being that me and my FI has been dating for 5 yrs now, it seems that she would be comfortable around me. So I dont know if I still need to invite her just to be nice , or being that we really dont talk for real, should i not invite her? B/c at the end of the day, its my wedding and i dont want to be uncomfortable either. Dont get me wrong , we are great co-parenting etc. and i love his child like he is my own. i just would love to hear everyone’s opinion. THANKS BEES
Post # 3
@Bjones107: I would say yes except that she doesn’t seem to acknowledge you in the presence of others. Are there really bad feelings involved here?
Post # 4
My ex husband and his new wife are on good terms with us. But I would not have invited them to our wedding and they did not invite us to theirs. You don’t need “reminders” on the day of your marriage. The child is 14- plenty old enough to attend by himself, and I assume he will have Fi’s family there as well.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t. I don’t think your wedding is a good place to get to know her. Your heart is in the right place, but I think maybe meeting for coffee or something would be a better idea…
Post # 6
I don’t know if your wedding is an appropiate occassion to get to know the woman. That is entirely awkward. Ask her out to coffee or invite her to the kid’s birthday party instead.
Post # 7
I wouldn’t. Your wedding is YOUR big day; this is not the appropriate time for you to try and make friends with her. Enjoy your wedding, and work on the relationship with her later if you so choose.
Post # 8
thanks! Well, I didnt want to get to know her better at the wedding. I just want us to be able to talk comfortably at any event that the child my have and not be uncomfortable just because I will be part of her son’s life and we all need to be able to talk and not be awkward towards one another. But i think coffee or a phone call would be a great start great idea!
Post # 9
i wouldnt…im not inviting my ex husband, but i am contemplating on inviting some of his family that im close to. it would just be awkward, just because we have a kid together i dont want him at my wedding. how does your FI feel about inviting her?
Post # 10
Honestly my opinion I wouldnt want the father of my kids to attend our wedding that being said we arent on any good terms at all. Plus its your day you decided who you want to attend.
Post # 11
Bless your heart, but no, there are just things and events we do not share to the exes.
Post # 12
No! You haven’t chosen to be friends with this women she is in your life because of circumstance. You are so nice to even contemplate asking her but IMO i think it would be wierd
Post # 13
Hell no. That just seems crazy awkward.
Post # 14
I wouldn’t based on what you said. If you guys were friends and spent time together, then it would be a nice gesture, but it doesn’t sound like that’s the case.
Post # 15
My fiance has two baby’s mom’s and they WILL NOT be coming to our wedding! I’m afraid his mother is going to invite one of them as her date instead of her husband and to our shower. Lol. If I were you, I wouldn’t and I wouldn’t feel bad. You guys aren’t friends.
Post # 16
@carpefnDiem My FI doesnt care if she comes or not, they have relationship as far as only dealing with the child with making sure the child has everything he needs. So they are excellent co-parents and get along ok. My FI said is up to me if i feel comfortable.