Post # 1
My friend is a bridesmaid…she’s only known her boyfriend a couple months…they barely know each other.
I. Can’t. Stand. Him.
He is one of the most annoying fake people I’ve ever met. My friend is also known to kind of be a serial dater…every fall it’s a new guy. This one is the worst.
Our guest list is very small…around 50 guests. I only intended to invite SOs if they were married or living together but she is kind of assuming he’s invited.
Post # 3
I would say yes, definitely. He’s important to her and she’s important to you, so everyone’s happy.
Post # 4
Hmm… how soon do you have to make a decision?
Post # 5
I would tell her no im sorry we are limiting 1+’s to living together, engaged, married.
Post # 6
Since she is in the wedding as a BM, I would say yes you should. If she wasn’t in the wedding, I would have said no you dont have to. However, in this case there is no have-to, just should.
Post # 7
I was in a kind of similar situation though my guest list was 120. But a lot of that were our family friends so we were really limited on how many of our own friends we could invite. But she was a bridesmaid and she was all about him at the time so I knew the only thing that would happen if I didnt’ invite him was major drama.
They’re now broken up and he was a bit of a problem the weekend of the wedding, made her leave the rehearsal to go to a bar (who knows why, we had free alcohol), brought in airplane bottles to the wedding and would take shots with the college kids who then got wasted (he’s in his late 30’s and again we had free alcohol, he just thought it was funny to get the college kids wasted), and got in a couple fights with my bridesmaid.
Even with all that, I still think it was less drama to invite him then it would have been to not invite him.
Post # 8
Since she’s a bm and your wedding is 7 months away, I’d just give her a +1. Maybe she’ll be on to the next bf by then! If she’s still with this guy, they will have been together ~9 months – fairly serious.
Post # 9
I think the bridal party should get +1s, hopefully they’ve broken up by the time your wedding rolls around.
Post # 10
you have awhile until you have to send out invites. i would tell her for now that you’re limiting it to engaged/married/living together, then see what happens when you’re closer to the wedding. if they’ve been together 9 months and she’s a bm, you should invite him.
Post # 11
I agree that bridal party should get a +1 since they’re most definitely going to come to the wedding (unlike a guest who you could invite solo and they could decline if they didn’t want to attend without a guest).
If they’ve broken up by then then hopefully she’ll find someone less obnoxious.
Post # 12
Yes, you should invite him. As a bridesmaid, you are dropping $$$ on the dress, gift, sometime travel to the wedding, bach parties and showers. She should be allowed to bring a date. ESPECIALLY if the other BM’s are bringing dates.
Otherwise, she’ll just start to resent you for it, and trust me, friendships have been lost over this issue.
And, you might luck out and she’ll have dumped the loser by your wedding day, but at least give her the option of having someone to dance with that night.
Post # 13
I’d give your BM a +1 since she is in the wedding party (I think all wedding party members should be able to bring a date). But don’t explicitly invite this boyfriend by name. If she chooses to use her +1 for him, that’s her choice – but maybe she’ll be on to a different better boyfriend by then!
Post # 14
I guess I would really LIKE to give our bridal party plus ones…BUT since we are keeping our wedding so small and intimate (a lot of extended family is getting left out) I feel awful inviting someone I hate over someone I like, but have excluded due to budget/space reasons:(
Also, her daughter and mom are both invited so she won’t be alone. And I’m actually paying for her dress and her daughter’s flower girl dress because she can’t afford the cost of the wedding.
He is the type of guy who constantly talks about how he used to do drugs and now he’s awesome because he’s clean…Plus he is always talking about himself and I am sure if he came he would make a toast about himself and about how awesome my friend is…which is touching…just not appropriate for our wedding. Ugh I literally cannot stand him!
Post # 15
I wouldnt invite him as long as your BM has other people she knows at the wedding. The only SO’s im inviting is my Brothers live-in GF (who he’s dated for 4 years), fiances, and married couples. Boyfriends are a no go