Post # 1
My fiancee and i decided to go to the justice of the peace…I have two children from a previous marriage age 22 and 15…I am not sure if i should ask them to attend with us or we are planning on having a party afterwards and just have them come to that only…I am undecided if i would like for them to come since they have chosen to take sides with my exhusband but i do talk to them reguraly…Help
Post # 3
As the mother of grown up children myself, all I would say is that my sons would have been very hurt indeed if I’d got married and told them afterwards. My stepchildren would have felt similarly if my DH had too.
But then we don’t have the complication of any sort of disputes with ex-husbands and wives.
My advice would be to ask them to attend the wedding. It’s not a day to ponder on past hurts with previous partners.
Post # 4
I say invite them. If you want it then give it a try. If they don’t come then that would suck but at least you will know you tried. Good luck!
Post # 5
@shelleymasters2: You should talk to them. Tell them it is important for you for them to be there. They are grown up, they are able to make their own decision.
I hope everything turns out OK! 🙂
Post # 6
I would at least ask them.
Post # 7
- Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand
I think it can’t hurt to put it out there. They may be more hurt if you don’t invite them; it gives your ex more fuel to the fire in hurting your relationship with your children.
Post # 8
@shelleymasters2: You may not get the response you want but I would invite them. At least that way there are no hurt feelings and you are being up front about your intentions. Congrats on getting married, wish you the best!
Post # 9
I would ask them. If they don’t feel comfortable coming, then fair enough. I think that you should have a conversation with them (don’t just send an invite).
Post # 10
@shelleymasters2: Coming from a family with remarried parents, I think you should extend the proverbial olive branch and let the children decide.
Post # 11
I would invite them, my dad never invited me to his second wedding and it hurt especially since we have a great relationship
Post # 12
@Steampunkbride: Thanks…it was a very bad divorce and of course their dad put them into the middle of it…he control every move they make..but i will invite them and leave it up to them to come or not…
Post # 14
One of my very best friends has divorced parents. Neither she nor her brother were invited to their moms second wedding. I don’t think she’s every really forgiven her mom for that among other mistakes. If their dad wasn’t the favorite before, he certainly is now, though.
Post # 15
Even though they may taken sides with your ex-husband, they are still your children and should be given the courtesy of an invitation. Whether they accept or decline is besides the point. I’d be very hurt if either of my divorced parents remarried without inviting us, even if we favoured one of them.
Post # 16
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I would invite them. If they say no, I realize that you could be hurt, but I agree with PP- not inviting them could cause more damage to the relationship.