Post # 1
Hi bees! I’m not sure on the etiquette of inviting OOT female relatives to my bridal shower. I have a few aunts and cousins in various states who will be coming to the wedding, but I know they won’t be able to make it to the shower. So, do I still invite them? They are family and if they lived here, they would most certainly come. My mom says they should absolutely not be invited because she doesn’t want it to appear as if I’m just asking for bridal shower gifts. So, what should I do? What’s the etiquette on this?
Post # 3
I dont know the rules behind it, but I did just so they dont feel left out or forgotten about.
Post # 4
I don’t have *any* local family members, so my bridal shower will be almost entirely comprised of friends (and FI’s mom and sister). I am inviting only the two female family members I feel the very closest to: my mom and my grandpa’s wife. I highly doubt my grandpa’s wife will make it, but I want her to feel included. I’m the only female grandchild (for a few more months, at least – my aunt is preggers!), so it’s a bit of a special occasion. I only invited her because she’s the only one who has the means, I think, to actually drop everything and fly out here if she wants to. I’m almost positive she won’t, but it would be a possibility for her. It wouldn’t be for anyone else, and I didn’t want them to feel like I was getting gift-grabby.
Post # 5
I would tell them about it and invite them but not stress they they have to come.
Post # 6
My biggest regret last time around (besides who I married) was hurting peoples feelings by not inviting them to my shower. I didn’t think they would come because it was a minimum of a 6 hour drive and for many a 12 hour drive. They felt like I didn’t value them and that I had no right to decide for them whether or not they could make it. I just didn’t want to place an additional burden on them or come off as greedy. But alas I did damage some relationships by not inviting them. It turns out some of them had planned to come and were hurt by the lack of invitation. It has taken me five years to rebuild some relationships. 🙁
Lesson I learned- invite everyone, never assume anything!