Post # 1
Hi ladies, here’s my problem…
I live in the UK and my fiance is British, but we’re having the wedding in Brazil, where I’m from. Now, there are a few friends in the UK who I know won’t make it to our wedding, because they don’t have holidays left, or no money etc.
Now, should I still send them invitations? I mean, they won’t cost so much to invite, but would look like I was putting pressure on them to come, even though they’ve already said they can’t make it???
Post # 3
invitation is always good and it doesnt put the pressure on. It just means that they were thought of they were special enough in your life to send an invite. My vote is to do it!
Post # 4
Personally, I would send an invite. We’re doing a Destination Wedding wedding as well, and inviting all we want to be there with us to celebrate. I know many will not go, but they are wanted, so they will get an invite.
Post # 5
I have lots of British family and invited them all anyway as I knew it would cause too much hassle if I didn’t. I just did it out of politeness even though I knew they wouldn’t come 🙂 It’s a hassle but not worth the drama of not sending one 🙂
Post # 6
I’m sending invites to a few people i know wont come because of travel. I dont think it puts presure on I think it would make them feel included.
Post # 7
Actually, the people who already told us they couldn’t come due to other commitments are the ones who also told us not to waste an invitation or stamp in sending them one. We didn’t send them, but they sent gifts anyway. I would say you should decide what to do based on how well you know these people.
Post # 8
For the wedding, yes. I would send them the invite. When they talk to you about not being able to attend, just say that you understand that they can’t attend, but that you wanted to make sure that they knew they were important to you guys, and included in the events. If you have a mini-party/ reception in the UK, be sure that they are the first to know about it.
Post # 9
Send them an invite, but also include them in your numbers until you get a for sure “Yes” or “No”. I invited people who told me they couldn’t make it, so I then invited other people to fill the space. Well, 12 out of those “won’t come” changed their minds and are now coming…and I am struggling to find space for them. Not fun a month before the wedding.
Post # 10
I think sending them the invite won’t put pressure on them but instead let them know that if it were possible you would love to spend your special day with them. I know a lot of my family/friends from home won’t be able to come to my wedding (I moved out of state 4 years ago) but I’m still going to invite them!
Post # 11
I definitely would! We have about 25 people that we’re inviting that we know won’t come, but I wanted to let them know we hoped they could come. I’ve gotten invites to weddings that I couldn’t go to and it made me feel included and not pressured.
I wouldn’t worry about it! 🙂