Post # 1
Its actually my FH’s friend from college. This girl “CB” has been nothing but rude to me from day one. When I met her, I introduced myself, and she did not even acknowledge my existence. No “its nice to meet you” or anything. Its like hello I’m dating your friend! Its been downhill from there. I finally put my foot down and told my FH that he is not allowed to talk to her anymore, because I just could not stand being treated like a piece of s*%t, being talked down to, and being preached to about the benefits of vegetarianism and yoga (i’m a meat eater and nothing you can do will change that)
What makes things complicated is now she is dating his cousin and they are living together. I have a 150 guest maximum for my wedding and there are a lot of people I will not be able to invite because of this (we both come from very large families). We are inviting only family and close friends and only guests who are married or engaged get a plus one with exception to those in the wedding party. We both have cousins that live with their SO’s and they will not get +1s either. I feel like this is a gray area because they were close but I hate to give someone I cannot stand a seat at my wedding when there are so many other people i would love to invite.
Post # 3
@tls96: Under the circumstances I would not invite her.
Post # 3
If you’re not doing any +1s for the other cousins there is no reason to make an exception for someone you can’t stand. It may have be different if they were still close now but they’re not so I wouldn’t spend another second worrying about it.
Post # 4
Don’t invite her. If the cousins don’t have +1’s then I wouldn’t worry. But honestly, it’s your day and you shouldn’t have anyone there that makes you feel THAT uncomfortable.
Post # 5
@tls96: We are inviting only family and close friends and only guests who are married or engaged get a plus one with exception to those in the wedding party. We both have cousins that live with their SO’s and they will not get +1s either.
I think this is pretty rude, TBH. I’d be very upset if a partner I lived with wasn’t invited. I’d find a bigger (or cheaper) venue so that you can include everyone who is in a relationship. It’s not like these are random +1s picked up a week before the wedding.
Post # 6
One word….Nope! There is no way in the world im going to pay $75+ a head for someone who could actually care less about my day.
Post # 7
@MidwestBride2012: i agree.
i personally would be offended if my SO was not invited. i think you should broaden your guest list to include not just married or engaged but also to living together.
unfortunately, this girl is now living with your fi’s cousin. i wouldn’t want to invite her either.
Post # 8
@tls96: Nope. The other cousins don’t get +1s. I generally decided this: If you havn’t made an effort to talk to me within the last year just to catch up because you care (even if you are close family) you are not invited. Our guest list is based on people who love us both and support our marriage. This person clearly doesn’t!
Post # 9
I’m not trying to offend people with the +1 rule. Its not about money or venue, its about the number of people who will be there. I always wanted a wedding to be small and intimate, but with the size of our families and the number of people we know, there is no way to do that. But without these guidelines, our wedding would be over 200 people.
Post # 10
@tls96: I agree with you and would do the same if I was in your shoes!! You want people who love you and are happy for you at your weding and thats it!
Post # 11
I’m more concerned with the fact that you told your FI he can’t talk to his friend.
Post # 12
@tls96: no way!!!!!!!! you should come first! your his wife.
Post # 13
A big N.O. I say, she isn’t worth your time or money.
Post # 15
Absolutely not. The FI and I have a theory on this, if someone is rude towards either of us they don’t deserve to be there for OUR day.
Also this: “I hate to give someone I cannot stand a seat at my wedding when there are so many other people i would love to invite” you are exactly right! your day should be filled with love, and people that you love!