(Closed) Should I invite someone I HATE to my wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@tls96:   Under the circumstances I would not invite her.

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

If you’re not doing any +1s for the other cousins there is no reason to make an exception for someone you can’t stand. It may have be different if they were still close now but they’re not so I wouldn’t spend another second worrying about it.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Don’t invite her. If the cousins don’t have +1’s then I wouldn’t worry. But honestly, it’s your day and you shouldn’t have anyone there that makes you feel THAT uncomfortable.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@tls96:  We are inviting only family and close friends and only guests who are married or engaged get a plus one with exception to those in the wedding party.  We both have cousins that live with their SO’s and they will not get +1s either. 


I think this is pretty rude, TBH. I’d be very upset if a partner I lived with wasn’t invited. I’d find a bigger (or cheaper) venue so that you can include everyone who is in a relationship. It’s not like these are random +1s picked up a week before the wedding.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

One word….Nope! There is no way in the world im going to pay $75+ a head for someone who could actually care less about my day. 

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@MidwestBride2012:  i agree. 

i personally would be offended if my SO was not invited.  i think you should broaden your guest list to include not just married or engaged but also to living together.

unfortunately, this girl is now living with your fi’s cousin.  i wouldn’t want to invite her either.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@tls96:  Nope. The other cousins don’t get +1s. I generally decided  this: If you havn’t made an effort to talk to me within the last year just to catch up because you care (even if you are close family) you are not invited. Our guest list is based on people who love us both and support our marriage. This person clearly doesn’t!

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

 @tls96:  I agree with you and would do the same if I was in your shoes!! You want people who love you and are happy for you  at your weding and thats it!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I’m more concerned with the fact that you told your FI he can’t talk to his friend. 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@tls96:  no way!!!!!!!! you should come first! your his wife.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

A big N.O. I say, she isn’t worth your time or money.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Don’t invite her. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Absolutely not. The FI and I have a theory on this, if someone is rude towards either of us they don’t deserve to be there for OUR day.

Also this: “I hate to give someone I cannot stand a seat at my wedding when there are so many other people i would love to invite” you are exactly right! your day should be filled with love, and people that you love!

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