Post # 1
Our daughter (from a previous marriage) is getting married and I’m getting ready to make the invites. She wants a small intimate wedding. She hasn’t had alot of contact in the last 16yrs. w/ her dad and his family who lives 3 1/2 hrs away. He never once came to see her, but he & his mom did usually send B-day/Chirstmas cash, and they spoke once in awhile on the phone. She’s had very little contact w/ her aunt and uncle (his sister and brother). So I’m wondering if I should send any of them an invite? Of course she announced on facebook that she was getting married, so she can’t do it and then tell them. Is this just a matter of if she would like to invite them? I don’t know why I’d rather her not, maybe it’s the fact that she’s not close to them, or maybe the fact I don’t want to pay for them when little effort was put in to seeing her in the last 16yrs. I don’t want to come off as mean here, I guess it wouldn’t kill me if they did show. UGH !!! What would you do? Thanks
Post # 3
I would just invite them. Most likely, they won’t even come to the wedding anyway if it is far away from where you live.
Post # 4
I would ask her what she wants to do and leave it up to her. I think it could be a very personal decision and in the end, she should do what is right for her.
Post # 5
Whatever your daughter wants. It doesn’t sound like they would come even if invited but they might be hurt if they aren’t invited. Either way, let your daughter make the final call.
Post # 6
This is definitely up to your daughter, not you. Whatever her decisoin is, is final, no questions asked.
Post # 7
Agree with PP’s – it’s up to your daughter.
Post # 8
I have the same idea with most people here. You should ask your daughter if she wants to invite them or not. But since she wants a small intimate wedding, I think her answer would be ‘no’.
However, if she doesn’t know what to do and leave it all to you, I think at least you should invite her dad. For others, you don’t have to invite if you don’t feel like and maybe they’re not close to her so they don’t care anyway.
Hope this helps you find a solution
Post # 9
I agree with the other bees… I think that before you just don’t invite them that it is something your daughter needs to think about and decide for herself. Despite the fact that they have had little contact with her, she may deep down inside be wishing that they all be there. It is her special day, so with a subject like that I’d be sure to check with her to avoid any massive mistakes.