(Closed) Should I invite this person?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should I invite her?
    Yes : (34 votes)
    72 %
    No : (13 votes)
    28 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    3265 posts
    Sugar bee

    I think it is difficult to split a family unit.  But you certainly don’t have to invite anyone you don’t want (as long as they aren’t part of a social unit). 

    I don’t think you should decide based on how other people feel about this cousin.  Your parents don’t like her, fine.  But how do you feel about her?

    Post # 4
    Member
    3039 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    She’s only 20 years old and from what I get, she’s having a rough time. Being included in a big family event might be an important part in the process of becoming more stable. In case you’re worried that she will cause a major scene, I would say that you should invite her.

    Post # 5
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    7653 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I’m kind of going against the grain here, but if she doesn’t live at home then you shouldn’t have to invite her. If she lives at home with your uncle then I would. I also agree that it may be nice for her to be invited to a family event. You can choose not to speak to her at the wedding. You are going to be so busy anyway.

    Post # 6
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    6207 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

    I think that she is not in a great place right now and excluding her would just be making everything worse.  I would invite her- who knows, maybe she won’t come.

    Post # 7
    Member
    4313 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    If you’re inviting her siblings, it would be incredibly rude not to invite her. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    539 posts
    Busy bee

    @Sea_Ashley:  I would invite her. Maybe not send a separate invitation, but include on her dads invite

    Post # 9
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    3 posts
    Wannabee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I am in a similar situation and if you dont think it will create drama or a scene at your wedding then invite her as a kind gesture from you. On the otherhand if your afraid that she will cause a scene then DONT invite her. You dont need the stress of worrying about something going down on such a important day for you! I have decided not to invite my two cousins who are very disrespectful and the risk of them causing a scene is much higher than im willing to gamble with. I love them very much and i told them this but simply put i cant afford to worry about them on my day.

    Post # 10
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    2179 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Invite her.  It doesn’t sound like she is prone to outbursts or disruptive behavior that would ruin your day itself.  It sounds like she may not come anyway, based on some of her past behaviour.

    Post # 11
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    1022 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @Sea_Ashley:  it would depend how she offended your parents. and if they are paying, if they are paying and say no, then no. if yuo are paying and they say no, it’s u to you, but unless there’s some HUGE thing you aren’t saying I say invite her. sounds like she wouldn’t come anyhow.

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