Should I just give up? (long/vent)

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1589 posts
Bumble bee

@rmrsln2010:  It may be kind of a no win situation. 

It’s very nice that you’re really making an effort to include them.  On the other hand, as you say they probably do want to do some vacation things, and probably don’t want to be ‘those’ in=laws – the ones who expect you to entertain them every minute. 


Post # 5
193 posts
Blushing bee

let me overstep your boundries here and be a polish momma for you for a moment (which I am)

“Kochanie – you worked so hard on those wonderful pierogies and my Gawd, bread pudding? people are crazy if they dont want to eat your delicious bread pudding. So they want to be on vacation? let them -they dont know what they are missing – my perfect SIL to be and my beautiful daughter, and thats too bad for them, but you, you are a precious thing and you better never forget it…now do you want me to mix dill in that sour cream or are you going to serve it plain?”



I miss my mom too, and sometimes I hear her voice… especially at age 50 now when i talk to my own 20something daughters… hugs to ((((you))))!


ps if you need to hear it – it will be okay. it will all work out to be a wonderful weekend!

Post # 6
236 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Might it be an issue more about the divorced couple having dinner with each other, or the 2nd wife not being crazy about spending time with the first wife (who she prob knows you are tight with)? Rather than anything to do with you. Maybe things would be different if it was only the father & his current wife being invited?

Post # 7
3637 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@MirnaMinkoff:  That’s a really good point. I didn’t catch that when I first read the OP.


I’m sorry that you went to so much effort. It seems very weird to me that they don’t want to catch up and have a meal together to celebrate the graduation. 

Post # 8
10384 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Did everyone know that you were already in the thick of things making the dinner? Because it sounds like a miscommunication, not a slight. It really, from the limited info you listed, sounds as though they were trying to save you the work and actually be nice to you by suggesting going out to eat. I honestly think they were trying to be helpful, not slight you.

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