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I was all set to have a "real dance" and then it didn't happen--we were LDR and couldn't fit in lessons.
Frankly, the awkward slow dance was great--it was the first 'break' we got the whole day to talk to each other
Haha...that's good to know. Music has always been a part of my life, I played 3 instruments growing up, and I CONSTANTLY have music playing, and a huge variety too...I have this playlist all created, and now I'm thinking...if we do dance, maybe we should just do the "first dance" and mingle for the rest of the night, since our wedding will have 40 people TOPS.
I just can't imagine us only picking ONE song! :( Even FI is insistent on a couple of other songs. (I am not sure why, but he is insistent that we play "Drops of Jupiter" because it reminds him of me... o_0 )
I think that you need to think of how important it is to YOU. In 10 years are you going to regret not having a choreographed dance planned for your first dance? You might want to think of your FI's abilities... realistically. :) Maybe he's a natural? But maybe not. I took a few dance lessons with my FI (long before we were engaged) and they were enough to convince me that we *probably* don't want to do a choreographed dance. He tries SO HARD but he is not a natural and he gets this weird concentrating-too-hard look on his face that would not be good for pics :)
How confortable would you feel trying to show him some steps yourself? You could do a simpler dance, especially if he's open to the idea and it's something you want.
Yeah, I guess I miscommunicated, I don't want an elaborate choreographed salsa routine. I just wish he would loosen up and be more comfortable with a slow swing dance, with 5 or 6 basic steps. I don't care about necessarily having something elaborate, but I do want to have that "moment" and the pictures of our first dance. Probably very accomplish-able with a simple, dance, though. Our first dance song was originally going to be "Oh, it is love." by Hellogoodbye though, so not exactly a slow dance.
I have tried to show him steps myself, and yet every time he tries to "sweep me into a dance" while we're in the kitchen, we end up doing this weird sway thing and then I have to go stir the spahgetti!. :P
If you really want to do a first dance that is a *little* fancier I absolutely suggest the DVD "Dancing Together" ...my FH and I just started in a few nights ago and have already made TONS of progress.
Thanks Sulli! I might just have to purchase that and make sure it gets in the mail to him this week. :P
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Alright, so here's the issue. I used to dance all the time, lots of west coast swing, lots of latin dance, lots of ballroom. I used to go out to social dances three times a week. I haven't had time or opportunity since moving from the area I grew up in, about two years ago...but I still ache to dance, and especially to have that "first dance" at my wedding. The thing is, FI doesn't dance at. all.
He is perfectly willing to learn, but we've been in an LDR on opposite coasts for the entire relationship (friends 7 years, couple 2), so there's not been an opportunity yet. He's moving here three months before the wedding, and will be in the midst of starting a new job, and we'll be apartment-hunting, so as much as he would like to have time for lessons, I don't think he will.
We're having some financial issues working dancing into the reception, anyway. Should I just let it go, or should I lower my expectation and just do more of a "highschool prom" kind of slowdance for the first dance? Ugh.