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    jaylii9    September 5, 2010  

    FI and I have decided to be in seperate locations the night before the wedding. I booked a hotel room and was hoping that some of my bridesmaids would want to spend the night with me the night before. Well, the way they are talking it seems liek they will all be at their own houses that night, most with their significant others.

    I decided to stay at the hotel because our wedding location is about 30-45 minutes across town from my house. I feel dumb for saying this, but I don't want to be alone in my hotel room the night before the wedding. FI thinks I should ask a couple of my bridesmaids to stay with me that night. What do you think? Should I just ask them or suck it up and stay in the hotel room by myself?

    Thanks!

     
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    bryanneb61    May 5, 2012   Columbus, Ohio

    I would say you should absolutely ask! You never know, some of them might have been thinking the same thing but thought you wanted to be on your own.

     
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    clarebee    August 21, 2010   Vienna, VA (wedding in Greensboro, GA)

    Ask your bridesmaids!! Even if at least one stays with you then you wont be alone! Im sure at least one of them will stay with you!

     
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    TheFutureMcBride    August 2010   Virginia

    I think you should ask. They're your bridesmaids because you love them and they love you, so ask. It could be a lot of fun.

     
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    PrncssDva    October 16, 2010   Memphis, TN

    Most definitely ask. That is what I am planning on doing and I have already told them. If they don't all want to stay...it's fine, but I don't want to be alone either.

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    Let them know it's an option! It could be fun! I'm sure they are assuming they're staying in their own places because, seriously, why would they pay for a hotel room when they have a free room? But if you're already in a hotel room, you could see if any of them want to stay with you.

    But, really, you could enjoy a nice relaxing evening by yourself in the hotel room. Bring a book, take a hot bubble bath, have a glass of wine downstairs in the hotel lobby and people watch...

     
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    nicoleashlee05    August 7, 2010   Pikeville, Ky.

    Im sure they would leave the boyfriends to spend a night with the to-be bride! Especially the night before the wedding!!! :)

     
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    PaperCrane       Married!

    Absolutely! Everyone loves a girls' night sleepover!

     
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    courtbu17    May 21, 2011   Dayton, OH

    Can't hurt to ask, the worst they could say is no.  Besides, I think spending the evening by yourself relaxing and doing whatever you want, thinking about the day ahead sounds nice.  Take a long bubble bath, stay in a comfy robe, read a book or indulge and rent your favorite movie, order a nice room dinner.  Frankly, being by oneself enures that you will get restful nights sleep (who knows one of your bridesmaids may have a terrible snoring issue).Wink

     
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    Baileyh    July 24, 2010   Vancouver

    If you want it ask!!! simple as that.

    I asked my sisters and my mom to stay with me...one was a little reluctant to do so as her significant other was in town but she ended up staying and had so much fun!

     
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    JamaicaBride    May 14, 2011   Charlotte, NC

    Definitely ask...even if they all don't stay..one or two may. If none of them want to stay, maybe ask your sisters (if you have them) or close relatives to stay. You guys can stay up a reminisce about old times, or favorite memories.

     
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    MindyLou    June 4, 2011   Florida

    Yeah ask them! Maybe you can play some games or watch a chick flick!

     
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    MsTerrapin    June 19, 2010   Maryland

    Ask them!  Girls' night in a hotel room before the wedding = awesome! 

     
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    SanDiegoAli    September 18, 2010   San Diego

    Yes, you should totally ask them!  My gals are staying with me the night before and I'm really looking forward to spending that time with them.

     
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    mrsv2be    September 22, 2010  

    Ask them! It sounds like fun!

     
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    SapphireSun    July 9, 2010   Vancouver, BC

    I agree that they probably just don't know it's an option.  You should ask them.

     
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    daydreamwanderer       DC

    I think it would be great if you asked a few of your bridesmaids, or else a good friend coming in from out of town for the wedding. Girl time!

     
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    Ella1978    June 19, 2010   Cleveland, Ohio

    I would totally ask.

    My mother wanted me and my bridesmaids to stay at her house in the morning, have breakfast and go get our hair done together.  We had a great time hanging out the nigth before, and relaxing in the morning.  There are a couple great photos of us all together that I love!  It was fun.

     
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    lindseymagen    March 5, 2011   Planning in DC, wedding in AZ

    Definitely ask! I am sure at last a couple would be happy to be with you the night before your big day! That's what I'm doing with some of my BMs as well.

     
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    jaylii9    September 5, 2010  

    Thanks, ladies! I agree, that they probably don't realize it's an option. I just didn't want to sound like a whiner or make them stay at the hotel with me. I guess I will let them know that it's an option! It might be fun to watch a movie and gossip for a bit before we try to get some sleep.

    All of the bridesmaids have to meet at the hotel around 9am the next morning to head to the salon, so it might be easier for them to stay with me.

     
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    jimbert321    September 10, 2011   Southwestern Ontario

    You should totally ask. I was a bridesmaid in a wedding 2 weeks ago and the night before we had a bridal slumber party with Matthew McConaughey Margarita Mayhem and we had a blast!

     
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    Gemstone    July 2011   Cincinnati

    Ask! It'll be super fun. :)

     
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    bRooklynRocks      

    I would ask. I just assumed my best friend wanted to be alone and her wedding is this Saturday. On Monday, she told me she didn't want to be alone and if I could come stay with her. I asked the other bridesmaid and she got 4 pull out cots for her room. We shall be 5 in her suite tomorrow night. Even though it was late asking, we still came together for her. It's going to be fun. Ask!! Let us know how it goes.

     

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