(Closed) Should I just tell my family?

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
1333 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

You are ENGAGED!!  You should absolutely be screaming that to everyone near and dear – regardless of feelings shared from one party to the next.  Let them decide how they will react, do not assume, and then if it is negative decide how to proceed from there.  I just think that by choosing to not share, you will a) make it worse, or b) are ‘admitting’/showing shame in your engagement, which would make others think their feelings are correct about your relationhip not being ‘right’.  If that makes sense 🙂  Good luck!

Post # 4
275 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Tell them :] Youll feel better when everythings out and open!

Post # 5
3773 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

If you are commited and mature enough to be engaged than you should absolutely get it out there. Not telling gives the impression that you aren’t sure it is the right thing.

Post # 6
2587 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

I tried to tell my parents by email, lol. But after I got twitchy waiting for them to check, I called mum and told her anyway. Left her to break the news to my Dad and Brother!

But I’m a wimp, and was getting mega-anxiety over the thing. They love my FH though, so it worked out fine.

Post # 7
772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@ieatunicorns:  Couldn’t agree more.  Just put it out there without any expecations of how it’s going to go (mainly no HIGH expectations).  If they give you a hard time, take it in stride, and move ahead with your plans.

Post # 9
511 posts
Busy bee

@ieatunicorns:  Sorry but I have to disagree with your statement that not telling people means that you’re unsure that getting married is the right thing to do.  People have different reasons for not telling people of their upcoming wedding plans and why they chose to do so is nobody else’s business.

Congratulations OP, I’m glad that they’re happy for you!

Post # 10
2385 posts
Buzzing bee

Tell them. They’ll find out soon enough. No use in waiting.

Post # 12
4327 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

Oops. Edit: Congrats on telling them.

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