Post # 1
I am considering leaving the Bee. Why? Well, it seems everytime I get on here the conversation is depressing and not supportive. I stayed on here post-wedding to help other bees with wedding planning and budgeting but I really have not done that much. The boards are overflowing with rude, snarky, meaningless things.
I would love to hear your thoughts, especially from others who have thought of leaving before or are leaving now.
Post # 3
@bestbuddies: I am also married already and have considered leaving the Bee on multiple occasions. What’s kept me here is the fact that I like being a part of an online community like this, and I don’t think it’s possible to have a place that is totally peaceful all the time if individuals are not censored. I think the drama comes in waves (ex: the “fat” controversy going on right now), and then it dies down again.
If you hate being on here, I would leave, but if this recent drama is what’s getting you down, I would stick around. We would love to have ya! 🙂
Post # 4
Although I see what your saying and I understand, there are plenty of other great posts going on every day! I try to steer clear of things I know are drama, since sometimes we say things we regret.
Start some threads of things you want to chat about and try to find the good amongst the ocassional evil that goes on.
Ultimately its up to you, but I hope you don’t leave!
Post # 5
I hope you don’t. Your posts are always upbeat and constructive. I would miss you. 🙁
Post # 6
since i started coming on this site i have considered leaving but i wanted the help for ideas and stuff while i was planning….. Im not sure what i am going to do but…..I totally understand what you are saying! Im right here with ya girl!
Post # 7
I never come accross innocent threads that turn mean I guess I don’t read a lot)
and I avoid the ones that seem mean or look like they can turn mean quickly.
If you feel you cannot avoid them and it bothers you. Then I guess your best option is to leave. (sad to see you go tho)
I for one over the years have grown “thick skin” So I guess I just deal with the snarkiness or ignore it.
Post # 8
I wonder if it might help to have an easier way to filter for just the wedding posts. Right now it seems like a lot of different topics fall under “wedding related”. Of course the difficulty is that an emotional topic can be about weddings or not, so I’m not sure practically how that would work.
Post # 9
I just don’t read those threads and read the ones that are helpful. You should stay. =]
Post # 9
WOW..thanks ladies for your wonderful comments! 😀
@Aure: Thank you! What a nice comment. You made my day!!!
Post # 10
NO!!!!!! Trust me, DO NOT GO!!! I have been gone for several months and only got back online today. First place I came was WB – I have never been so proud to be apart of the Bee as I have been today. Both my email and PM box were chalked full of wonderful messages from the Bees. I just said this in an email and I will repeat it here – “Disney Land may be the happiest place on earth, but WeddingBee has the biggest heart.”
Websites have their ebbs and waves. I have seen WB go through many bright times and a few darker times, but the bright time far outway and outshine the dark times.
Stick around, you will not regret it.
Post # 11
I have always really enjoyed your posts, and I truly believe you have a lot to offer the Bee, even after your wedding. I hope you stay!
Post # 12
Well you can join HelloBee if you leave!
But here’s the thing. Any online community is going to have people that aren’t so positive. I avoid pretty much all the drama threads. Even if I open them or read them, I usually dont post because it’s not worth my time or energy. I choose to post on things that other people will find helpful. I like to make my own posts when I’m curious or have a question about something or just need support of my own. No place is perfect. It is what you make of it. I too have thought about leaving from time to time, but nothing would get me through work the way WB does!
Post # 13
@PitBulLover:I agree with your entire post.
@bestbuddies:I can also usually tell which threads are going to create drama and, even though I click in and read them sometimes, I don’t usually respond for the same reasons PP have mentioned and because I don’t want to help “bump” them to the top of the boards. There are so many positive and helpful posts on here, I think that you already contribute so much and that you’d be missed!
Post # 14
I agree with PPs. I hope you stick around, I like your posts! And the drama comes and goes in waives it seems (strippers, potroast, COS, etc). I just try to avoid reading that type of post and stick to those that interest me. I’d be sad to see you go!
Post # 15
@PitBulLover: What is hellobee?
Thanks for all your comments and kind words ladies. You ladies are all so nice!!! I think you are right, I need to stop reading the drama ones and keep to the wedding board 😀