Post # 1
Just sent out the wedding invitations, and invited my fiance’s friend and her long-term Boyfriend or Best Friend. Unfortunately, afterward my fiance tells me…”Oops! I forgot to tell you they broke up 2 months ago and now she is terribly heartbroken!”
Fiance apologized for sending the invitation with the ex’s name, and she responded that she would bring a friend instead. We have hung out with this friend a few times, she’s fun… but we don’t know her well. However, we are not inviting a +1 for other single guests, only if guests are married or living together, and I really want an intimate wedding. But I feel bad about the breakup though and for unknowingly inviting the ex but want to be consistent for the other single guests…
What should I do?
Post # 3
I feel like since the invitation suggests 2 people to be invited, you can’t take that back.
Post # 4
This is complicated. She probably assumes people are allowed dates so it’s not like she’s purposely being rude.. I might let this one slip.
Post # 5
Let it slide, you’ve already budgeted for the +1. If anyone questions it you can explain the situation. Most people would understand. Or just the “she’s going through a hard breakup and needs support/she doesn’t know many people at the wedding”
Post # 6
Yeah, I’m going with letting her bring her friend. Especially if the ex is still invited. Even if he isn’t, cut the poor girl some slack. She probably felt like she and her ex were headed down the alter soon after you, and if you take time to read the “Waiting” threads, it’s a little stab in the heart for those ladies who aren’t yet engaged to go to a wedding, no matter how happy they are for their friends. Her situation is slightly WORSE, because at least the “Waiting” bees still have their SOs at their side for support. She just got dumped. It’s a crappy place to be. She’ll appreciate the ability to bring some moral support along, and you’re doing a good deed. It’s no loss to you either way– had she still had the Boyfriend or Best Friend in tow, it’s the same plate to fill at the reception. 🙂
Post # 7
I agree with the consensus and in particular with JulesSchnooks: it would be doing her more good than you harm.