Should I let her come?

posted 3 years ago in Family
  • poll: Should I let FMIL's sister do flowers with us?
    Let her come : (28 votes)
    78 %
    Find a way to politely say no : (8 votes)
    22 %
    Other (below) : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    6953 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @Pumpkin_Bee:  I would tell her exactly your last sentence. You want to spend that time with just your moms. She should understand that. 

    Post # 4
    1343 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I would personally let her come. I completely understand that you are wanting some motherly bonding time, but you never know! This woman could be a flower arranging genuis! And you might get to know your new aunt a little better than you normally would have (being so busy with the wedding and all). It could be awkward, or it could be awesome. I’m an avoider though, I hate hurting people’s feelings, even if I’m in the right!

    Post # 5
    907 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I’d toatlly let her come. It’s so nice that she wants to help, and she will be family soon. Right now you’re thinking the day before your wedding will be bonding and all smiles, but in reality you will be stressed, have a million last minute things to do, and will be very grateful for the extra hands. 

    Post # 6
    526 posts
    Busy bee

    OF COURSE you invite her!  I would be so happy she offered to come help! you get to know another female family member well, and her being there will probably make your MIL more comfortable too, since you and your step-mom have had a relationship much longer than you and she.

    Post # 7
    391 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Yes, you should invite her.  We picked and arranged the flowers for my wedding this past weekend, and believe me, you will be grateful for an extra set of hands!  Honestly it will just make you look a bit bad to not let her come – it’s not like she is a random family member, despite the fact that you are not close, and you said so yourself that it would also help if her husband could set up.  We did the set-up ourselves too for the wedding and it’s also a fairly time consuming process! I think saying no really puts you in a lose-lose situation, you look kind of bad for doing so and you also have fewer hands to help out.

    Post # 8
    4576 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Yeah, this a no-brainer to avoiding drama: just let her come.

    Post # 9
    5905 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2018

    @Pumpkin_Bee:  …sometimes the best things in life, are the things we didn’t plan on.  I know you’ve banked on this flower adventure to be a Mom’s only event, and that’s great, but for all you know, Jean is the Michealangelo of flowers and hilarious and fun and is going to take something that was going to be…a pretty good time into the stratusphere of awesomeness…don’t miss that because you don’t know her.

    Post # 10
    7654 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I would totally invite her. One, she is important to your FMIL and it sounds like they want to spend some time together to so what better way for everyone to bond? Plus you will have extra help for your flowers 🙂

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