- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
I am getting married in June of next year. Everything is on schedule and running smoothly except for one nagging detail. Who is going to walk you down the isle?!? I was engaged six years ago to a guy who just wasn’t right for me and luckily I figured it out before I married him. At that time, my father and I who have had very rocky relationship were not talking. My oldest brother who had always been more of a father figure rather than a brother was taking the honor of walking me down the isle and giving me away. Since that time, my father and I have started talking again and trying to rebuild our relationship. I really have let go of my anger towards him and I am trying to move forward and not live in the past about the whole situation with him.
Now that I am planning a wedding again, my father just assumes he will be the one walking me down the isle. I’ve gone back and forth in my head about a hundred times on what to do. There is NO doubt in my mind that my brother will be walking me down the isle and giving me away, but I’m not sure if I should include my father and let them both walk me down or not. Every time I come down to the same question which is: am I making this decision because it’s what I want or is it because I don’t want to hurt him and I think it’s a combination of both.
I feel like I am being pulled in a tug of war. My mom and fiancé are saying flat out don’t let him be involved, he doesn’t deserve it. My brother is being very supportive and says he will be okay with whatever I decide (as long as my decision isn’t based on what will make other people happy) and I have my maid of honor telling me to just let both of them walk me down it’s a good compromise, but she hates confrontation as much as I do so I wouldn’t expect anything less. If anyone else has a situation like this, or has some incite please HELP!