Should i let my Fiancée buy me a new engagement ring ? please help

posted 1 year ago in Rings
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Buzzing bee

If you love your ring, can you “distract” him with putting his generosity towards something else? Like “Babe, I love this ring so much and it means a lot to me that it is the ring you proposed with. But, if you really want to buy something, here’s a wedding band I really love.” Or, “I’ve been wanting to splurge on XYZ for the wedding, but it hasn’t been in the budget. Would you buy that for me instead?”

What is it, since it isn’t diamond? CZ? Moissanite? Sapphire?

If it’s CZ, I’d consider letting him replace it since it will cloud up over time and you may not be in a position to replace it at that time. Your ring IS lovely!!! I like it.

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Sugar Beekeeper

You could swap the stone for a real diamond and re-set the current stone into another piece of jewelery?  What kind of stone is it? If CZ, I’d replace it since CZ doesn’t last forever. 

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Busy bee

If you love your ring, put the $ towards a honeymoon or trip you both can enjoy. Men feel like they need to make everything right, even if it already is in your mind. My FI constantly asks me if my ring is big enough, good enough, and if I still love it. Just tell him u do…period

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Sugar bee

I would let him do it. A CZ won’t stand the test of time and if a guy wants to do something for you, you might end up hurting is pride/feelings if you don’t let him.

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Sugar Beekeeper

I think your e-ring would look better with a straight band than a corved one, personally – so no worries there! I’d maybe just upgrade the stone to something more durable. I’d go with moissy myself!

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Busy bee

later on in life, there will always be something else to spend the money on

so if you want a diamond and he wants to buy it, I say let him

 

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Worker bee

We got married super young, and my husband has always viewed my ring as a symbol of his hard work making a great life for us. (I dont get it, Id wear a twisty tie on my finger and call it a day!) And hes upgraded my ring at 1 year, 5 years and 10 years. It makes him happy, and so I go along with it. He knows I dont expect him to upgrade my ring, and that Id even be fine with not upgrading, but that somehow makes him even more set on the idea LOL.

If your FI is really set on it, and you can afford it, Id let him. I have my original promise ring and my original teensy diamond ring saved for our daughters one day. Sometimes I still wear them on my right hand.

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Sugar Beekeeper

If you guys can afford it now, then yes. The CZ won’t stand up in the long run. 

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Buzzing bee

I think moissanite would be a good compromise. Much cheaper than a diamond, but it will hold up over time.

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Bumble Beekeeper

@MrsSoonToBePeters:  If money isn’t an issue, go for the diamond upgrade in a similar setting. CZ won’t last and moissanite won’t look exactly like a diamond. You don’t need to rush it, though… find something you love.

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Buzzing bee

I say go with it. A ring means a lot to your guy and let him get the one that he always wanted to get you. Keep your current ring and wear it as a right hand ring

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Bumble bee

Swap out the cz for sure, even if you want to keep your setting.

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