- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2011
I am amazed at how many people have offered to throw me parties since getting engaged. My friends are collectively throwing a bachelorette party, which I am good with.
There are few other offers which have been made which I am not sure what to do with. They are all in different cities.
First, my fiance’s mom said that she wanted to throw me a shower with their family in their hometown (far from where they currently live). I was happy with that and even told my mom and my aunt’s who she wanted to include, but then we had a lot of drama about his parents paying for the rehearsal dinner (which they want to do, but kept complaining that there were too many people on my side of the family and it cost too much), and about 30 seconds after the drama ended his mom asked his dad “well, can we still have money for her shower?” and I flipped out and was like noooo don’t spend any more money on me please please please. So I guess that it over. I’m kind of sad about that and wish she hadn’t asked him in front of me at all…
My fiance and I need to go see my grandmother. My aunt suggested that it might be fun to have a shower with our family while we are there. We really don’t know what the attendance would be, though, or how to plan it. Is there any point to doing this? Should it be a couples shower since my fiance will be visiting too? What is a good way to do a casual shower which is inexpensive, still includes everyone who needs to be included, and is not at someone’s house? I looked at places to get tea, but don’t know if that is appropriate for a couples shower?
Thirdly, a friend from college offered to throw me a shower when I visit our old college town in a couple of months. I only invited three girls who live there to the wedding… Since it will only be three of us, is it better to just call this a girls night? Is there any reason to bring my fiance’s mom along? She will be in town too, but she doesn’t know them at all.