(Closed) Should I let sister inlaw and daughter that HATES ME,to participate in ceremony?

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

He’ll to the NO. If they are downright mean to you, you certainly do not have to include them in any way. They are lucky to even get invited to your wedding after how they treat you.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

totally agree w/ CaitMarae.

Wedding ceremony duties honor people who value and love you. SIL and daughter clearly don’t. She should be happy she’s INVITED. Tell FI straight up you don’t want them involved. Period.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Nope. Sorry, I don’t allow b!tches in my wedding. I don’t need the stress of them on my day.

Post # 6
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572 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Sure, let them valet all the cars for the ceremony 😀

Post # 7
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883 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

No, I wouldn’t even invite them if I were you. 

Post # 8
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290 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

It’s his sister and niece. He asked you to find something for them. It’s his wedding too. I’d oblige *for him.* But I’d tell him your feelings/worries. I’d also see what he has in mind.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

For you to not be thrown under the bus, I would have your FI handle this one from the beginning to the end.  Let HIM decide what he wants them to do and let HIM tell them what they will be doing.  If he’s wanting them in the wedding party, then I would tell him they can be on his side.  Let HIM handle it 110%.

Post # 10
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457 posts
Helper bee

Agreed, HECK NO! Def don’t do that to yourself for your special day. Your FI shouldn’t even be telling you to find something they can do with the way they treat you. If they hate you so much why do they even want to be in it, most likely to  make it about them.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper

HECK YES!  Let them participate.

You’ll need parking lot attendants.  TWO of them.  For the ceremony.  And the whole reception.

Provide chartruese vests with reflective strips.

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper

Does your FI know how badly his sister treats you???

Post # 14
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5823 posts
Bee Keeper

In all seriousness, I think you should be honest with your FI about how you feel about them.  Then ask him what job he wants them to have, knowing how you feel.  I’d suggest meaningless jobs that keep them away from you like usher and guest book attendant.

Post # 15
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447 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Ask them to hand out programs. 

Post # 16
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424 posts
Helper bee

Do we have the same sister in law to be?  My fiances brother’s wife was a complete bitch to me and stirred up a huge argument (she started this huge fight by herself..I seriously did nothing to her and it was her jealousy of my relationship with his real sister that was getting to her).  My fiance totally backs me up when I say I don’t want her or her daughter in the wedding.  We act civil now but I hate her and will always hate her.  You will regret it lookinng back at pictures if someone you hate was in the wedding. 

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