- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
My DH is trying to fix the stupid kitchen sink. It’s messed up. Tried last ngiht, came home from work today to continue. Long story short:
He’s under teh sink trying to fix it. All huffy. “I’m going to Lowe’s. Gotta buy a cap. We’re capping the sprayer.”
Me: “I like the sprayer.”
Him: “Then you fix it!”
Me: “I’m just saying I like it, don’t be a jerk, I’m not criticizing you. Just recognize that I like the sprayer.”
Him: “Then don’t complain.” Walks out the door to go to Lowe’s.
I try the sprayer. see that it works. I call him to tell him it works. He yells because he knows what part acutally doesn’t work, but instead of communicating that to me, he shows no patience and says:
“Please don’t concern yourself with what I’m doing!”
MAJOR jerk moment. Biut, deep breath, I can understand his frustration. Stupid broken sink. Got it. I am capable of not taking his JERK moment personally.
But I still don’t like being snapped at, and misunderstood as “complaining,” when I wasn’t trying to.
Question is, do I just let it go (knowing we’ll talk about it at counseling anyway next WEdnesday), or tell him I understand his point of view, am sorry I had bad timing with my comment, wasn’t trying to piss him off, and that I would just like him to understand my point of view too?
tomorrow is his birthday. My plan for today includes birthday shopping for him and baking him a cake. I was in such a happy mood to do it too, now I’m all pissed at him
ADVICE? Let it go, or tell him how I felt?