Should I move on? :( I am so sad.

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Should I just try to get over him and stay his friend?
    No : (19 votes)
    50 %
    Yes : (5 votes)
    13 %
    Move on and ditch him completely. : (14 votes)
    37 %
  • Member
    519 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Why don’t you ask him out?

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    505 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Is it normal for a guy to decrease the frequency of contacting you if he was still interested if you guys have been around eachother for a while?

    No. If a guy is interested, he’ll be contacting you. Sounds like your guy assumed you weren’t interested in HIM and is moving on. You do know tickling is foreplay, right? Men don’t tickle women they’re only “friendly” with; they tickle if they want to have sex with you.

    If you want to date this guy, you need to TELL HIM. Good grief. It may be daunting as you’ve never dated before. Does he know about your lack of experience? You need to sit him down and tell him you’ve got the hots for him & would like to go on a date. If you’re uncomfortable, tell him that, too. And maybe explain why you’ve never dated (unless there’s some super serious reason, i.e., childhood abuse, if so save that for later) because it’s weird, at your age. Tell him why he’s the exception.

    If he doesn’t want to date you — actual, real honest dating, not just hanging out with tickles — then yes, cut him out of your life completely.

    Member
    883 posts
    Busy bee

    I voted move on.  He sounds like a guy who’s only/mainly interested in the chase.  He went after you in the beginning, then once you showed interest (even if it wan’t obvious to you, he probably sensed that you were interested in him), it was no longer a challenge from him, so he’s not chasing you anymore.  If you do decide to distance yourself from him, don’t be shoked if suddenly he starts showing you more attention (because you’ll be giving him a challenge again – some guys are weird).

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    11039 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    He’s either only interested in the chase and now that you’re into him he’s not interested. OR, he didn’t get the vibe that you were interested in him, so he’s moving on…Ask him out, see what happens!

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    519 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @MrsWBS:  

    OR, he didn’t get the vibe that you were interested in him, so he’s moving on…Ask him out, see what happens!

     
     
    If I had to guess based on the limited knowledge we have, I’d go with that.  *nod*

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    1137 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    He may be loosing interest because he thinks you’re not interested. Sometimes it pays off to make the first move. The worst that could happen is you get turned down but it’s not that big of a deal being turned down.

     

    Give him a call, invite him to dinner at your place and plant a big kiss on him when he gets there. That will let you know where he stands with you

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    1655 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    You say 24 is pretty young… for what? For getting into a relationship?? It’s not, really.

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    10 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    When I read this, the first thing I thought was ‘Graduate school is hard! Be patient with him.’ Are you guys in the same program? If not, I can totally understand why he’s a bit distant at the moment- this is academic crunch time…I personally have not been very social recently because the end of the semester has been so demanding.

    And we can’t always assume that our intentions are clear- my fiance waited almost a year to make a move becuase he did’t think I was interested in him. And all I could think was ‘are you freaking kidding me?!?!’

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    289 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I have dated a few guys who were really shy and just afraid of rejection so I had to give them the initial nudge. Just send him a text saying, “Hey why dont we go out just the two of us sometime. :) ” That will definately get him to either set up a date or tell you he’s not interested in you in that way. Just go for it! :)

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    81 posts
    Worker bee

     when I was with guys that were wrong for me. making the relationship work was really hard and a lot work. I was emotionally draining and I was constantly trying to figure out what he was thinking. 

    With my current SO who I love, our relationship is so easy and he is straight with me. No games. 

    it shouldn’t be this hard.  I voted for ditch him. 

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